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| Wed, 08-10-2005 - 5:17am |
Hi,
I have an online friend I have known since a year, and even though we have never met (he lives in another country) it has always felt that we have the most genuine friendship. He is single, my age, working. Even though it is really expensive for him to call me, he still does it, and has never expected me to call him. He is just very considerate and an extremely decent person. We lightly touched on the topic of dating, but we agreed that until we met, nothing could be said for sure. So we are still talking.
Well, I have a boyfriend now(who I don't seem to be falling in love with). And I am still in touch with my friend on the phone. We have always talked as friends, but I know that there might be something "below the surface". He has never Once asked about my bf....how I met him, what my plans are with him, etc. Why, I wonder. I find that surprising, since we talk about everything but that. Even if I do tell him something about my bf, he just says "okay" and lets it go.
I am glad that I have a friend in him, but at the same time, I also know that my waiting for him to come see me, or me waiting another year or so to go see him, would take forever. If he does decide to come see me, would it be OKAY to go see him "without" my boyfriend? (if we r still together?)
Another question: should I give up the idea of ever knowing him more, and just carry on with my life, and pick guys from around here? What would you do...
I know these are not easy questions but your thoughts would be appreciated.

mazeoflife..
Pianoguy thinks it's GREAT that the 2 of you have the long-distance friendship, but unless one of you wants to do "a little travelling"---this is as far as things are gonna go!
While you might be unhappy with your present b/f...you have no way to honestly assess the man who lives in another country! He could be completely different from the words he uses behind the computer screen!
Since you're looking at one year (or longer) before the two of you can possibly meet face-to-face...I wouldn't worry about whether or not to include your boyfriend! HE MIGHT BE "history" one year from now?
Pianoguy
just that, i know there are undercurrents of something stronger with him, and unfortunately, yes, there's no way of proving that until we meet. we rarely talk on the net though. we have always talked on the phone. so it's more "real". it's really unfortunate that we live so far away from each other.
"Another question: should I give up the idea of ever knowing him more, and just carry on with my life, and pick guys from around here? What would you do..."
I would give up the idea of ever knowing him more and pick guys from around where you are.
I'm guessing you're fairly young. Pick LOTS of guys from around you... long distance relationships are incredibly difficult.
T