new at dating!

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Registered: 11-17-2004
new at dating!
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 6:20am

I've been single for about a year after a 7yr relationship and find dating not as easy as it used to be!

I saw a guy for a few months but he never really seemed into me, I only saw him once a week and wouldn't hear from him for days, he just never had time for me and admitted when it ended that he just didn't have time for a girlfriend in his life and didn't know what he wanted (at 31!)

Now I'm scared of making the same mistake again, I've met a guy, been out with him twice, the last time he cooked me a meal and we had a really nice time. He works long hours and doesn't reply straight away to my texts and doesn't seem over enthusiastic about me although he went through a lot to get me to go out with him in the first place. I don't want to scare him off, I just find the first dating stages very stressfull, you don't know what they think or whether they even want a girlfriend or just dates every now and then. I'm 34 and he's 27, I only told him my age on the 2nd date and I hope that hasn't scared him off as he thought I was younger.

After the meal he just said we'd speak soon, i sent hima text to thank him and he's sent brief texts back, I'm not sure what to do now. Is there a sneaky way of finding out whether they want a girlfriend without scaring them off?

Thanks

Lindsey

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: lindsey34
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:24pm
Hi Lindsey, welcome to the board!