New dating dilemma---your thoughts please
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|Fri, 10-04-2013 - 2:35pm|
Here's is my new dating situation....
I was introduced to this guy by friends. My friends know that I am now at that stage in my life (I'm 34) where I prefer commitment over dating guys who are not sure of what they want in life. My friends knew that this guy is ready to get into a serious relationship. They thought we would match and so I said I don't mind trying it out and getting to know him.
I've had about 7-8 phone conversations with this guy. He has a busy career and so do I, but he makes it a point to find out when I'm free and calls. What's refreshing is that we've had great conversations. I sense maturity in the conversation (he is 37), well most of the times =) This hasn't happened to me in a long time! I actually feel like he is a good guy, I feel a connect. So the here is what is bothering me...
1. I want to meet in person soon, but due to his busy schedule it looks like he might not be able to meet me for another 2-3 months (he lives in a city about 4 hours away). In the meantime, he wants to keep on calling me...once the conversation became presumptuous and I stopped it, eventhough I would have gotten carried away too because I didn't feel completely uncomfortable. But today when I think about it , I am glad that I stopped it because I feel like phone conversations cannot replace what can happen in reality or till we meet in person. He might not like me when he meets me. Though he did mention that he prefers the emotional connect over physicality. We've only seen each others pictures.
2. He is the one who always initiates phone calls. Should I be proactive as well? Don't get me wrong, I enjoy being pursued like any other woman. I'm just not sure because after dating and talking with so many people, this situation is different and I don't want him to feel like he is the only one who has to call or contact.
I appreciate your thoughts on this!