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| Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:44am |
So I have been dating this guy for about two months. We have not had sex and we have not had the "talk" about our relationship. He seems like he is very interested and playing off of my cues. I have two questions:
1. When do you have that talk and who should initiate?
2. What on earth do I get him as a Christmas gift? Ideas would be great. I was thinking a night away somewhere, but then I thought that might be a bit presumptuous?

At two months, and not having sex yet, the only "talk" I would have had by now is "what type of r'ship are you looking for, in general?" to make sure that you are on the same page with what you're looking for. It's too soon for either of you to know what type of r'ship you are looking for with *each other* (I think that takes a minimum of 4-6 months to have an idea that someone is potentially right for you).
I would also want to know that we were dating exclusively before sleeping together, so if that is likely to happen soon, it's up to you to bring it up if he doesn't and it's important to you.
As for the gift, I would get something on the small side...like a DVD, CD or book that you know he would like because of something he's told you about his interests. I do think an overnight stay would be WAY presumptuous at this point.
Sheri