New Guy Advice

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Registered: 10-29-2003
New Guy Advice
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:44am

So I have been dating this guy for about two months. We have not had sex and we have not had the "talk" about our relationship. He seems like he is very interested and playing off of my cues. I have two questions:

1. When do you have that talk and who should initiate?
2. What on earth do I get him as a Christmas gift? Ideas would be great. I was thinking a night away somewhere, but then I thought that might be a bit presumptuous?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fuschia73
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:54am

At two months, and not having sex yet, the only "talk" I would have had by now is "what type of r'ship are you looking for, in general?" to make sure that you are on the same page with what you're looking for. It's too soon for either of you to know what type of r'ship you are looking for with *each other* (I think that takes a minimum of 4-6 months to have an idea that someone is potentially right for you).

I would also want to know that we were dating exclusively before sleeping together, so if that is likely to happen soon, it's up to you to bring it up if he doesn't and it's important to you.

As for the gift, I would get something on the small side...like a DVD, CD or book that you know he would like because of something he's told you about his interests. I do think an overnight stay would be WAY presumptuous at this point.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: fuschia73
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:03pm
X-Mas Gift: cologne, scarf, dvd a good idea, journal...not a night away!!!! Take that from a guys point of view who doesn't think with his...!
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Registered: 10-29-2003
In reply to: fuschia73
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:18pm
Thanks for the advice, I kinda thought I was getting a bit carried away. :)
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Registered: 12-08-2004
In reply to: fuschia73
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 12:21pm
I don't think that there ever really is "THE TALK". I mean it is kind of an asuumed thing. As long as he is not sating anyone else then there in my opinion should be no talk. I think that a weekend away is too much for only being together two months. The first time you have sex it shouldn't be a planned thing and if you go out of town then it will be. How old is this guy and you?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: fuschia73
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 12:52pm
Hello jessicaandmak, welcome to the board!