NEW GUY - BAD IDEA?

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Registered: 11-16-2004
NEW GUY - BAD IDEA?
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 5:44pm

My cousin broke up w/her fiance about 8 months ago (he cheated) & has started liking a guy who she happens to know through her ex. Although my cousin's ex & this guy are not close friends, merely acquaintances - the problem is that this guy works @the same company that the ex's sister-in-law works. I know my cousin genuinely likes this guy & I think he's attracted to her too, but I think this could pose for a messy situation.

I know my cousin has NO intention of getting back w/her ex & they no longer speak - he cheated on her right after they became engaged!....And shortly after she broke off the engagement, she found out a few months later that he was seeing a 2nd girl as well so clearly my cousin wants nothing to do w/him (although I know how devastated she was but she is slowly getting over it). I think it also poses for a messy situation though because I know my cousin's ex is still in love w/her.

So my cousin & this new guy aren't dating or anything but I know she would want to but she isn't sure whether or not to approach him about this because she doesn't want to "cause any waves" given the situation. I have seen the way they look at each other when we're out and there definatly seems to be an attraction there between the two of them, but he seems like a nice guy & perhaps he doesn't want to cause any "waves" either.

What do ya'll think?? Should I tell my cousin too forget about this guy & find someone else who doesn't know her ex through "a friend of a friend of a friend" or should that not matter given the cicumstances surrounding the break-up, etc.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:10pm
Hello saraconn, welcome to the board!