New guy is moving out of town in 10 days

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
New guy is moving out of town in 10 days
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 3:19pm
I've been chatting with this guy on and off for over 2 months now, we met online. He kept putting off meeting me in person for this or that reason and now tells me he's gotten a job transfer 3/4 of the way across the country from where we live now and is leaving in 10 days! We agreed to meet in person finally, and met last night. We really hit it off and he said he wants to see me again. So ... do I spend time with him before he goes and just get myself in deeper emotionally (cause even before meeting him I already really liked him)? There's no way of knowing if he would want to continue something long-distance or just write it off when he leaves. I'm thinking the latter. I'm confused as to what to do!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 4:08pm

He postponed your face to face meeting repeatedly which makes me think he might not be prepared to start a relationship much less a LDR.

Please proceed with extreme caution.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2006
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 5:06pm
Yes, why was he postponing meeting you. It could be genuine hesitation, or it could be other commitments. But anyways, now that he has seen how you both are in person, it looks like he does mean meeting up again. Inanycase, as the previous poster warned, proceed with caution. You don't need to get emotional. Keep it light and discuss what he thinks about LDR's in general. If it's not mutual long distance, you are going to have a really tough time, and end up getting your heart broken. Discuss with him, and let him know this is in light of the current situation of his moving, and ascertain if the both of you are on the same page, more or less. Does he wanna keep seeing you? If he wants to keep his options open, you should do the same.