New & has questions about new guy!

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Registered: 07-11-2006
New & has questions about new guy!
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 11:18pm

So i'm a 20 year old, and currently pregnant with my second.....visibly so! I ride the bus each morning and night to and from work. I have this particular bus driver Jeremy, that I think is pretty cute. Didn't really notice him until he started making convo with me. He's made little remarks like to others that ride like, "I'm taken, see that girl there in the brown shirt", and a few other things. Like today, (I ride with co-workers) a guy from work and I were talking and he says well i'll drop that off at your house. Talking about some catfish he was suppose to bring. And I said, "No, you don't need to know where I live, I'm single and I live alone, there's no ring on my finger." My co-worker says jokingly, "I'll stalk you". Well today when I get on the bus to go home, Jeremy says, "Yeah I listen, like you saying Don't stalk me, but i'm single". Anyway, i don't see this guy outside of the bus, but I would like to maybe get to know him. Thing is I don't believe in acting desperate and asking men for their phone number. I think they should show interest first. Only thing, I don't know if he's interested, and just doesn't say anything because we're on a bus full of people.....or he just flirts with all the girls that get on his bus. I thought about being brave, and saying something to him. However, if he looks at me crazy and shoots me down. I have not only my co-workers looking on, but a bus full of people. Not to mention I see him pretty much on the daily.
That would be pretty embarrassing. Curious as to how to handle this situation. Any advice would be appreciated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 10:56am

mommy2-2-785...

It would be too easy for Pianoguy to use the "I'm pregnant and my hormones are out of control" argument in your situation.

So why don't you just ride the bus...and say NOTHING? You don't have to respond when a bus driver (or anybody else) addresses you. As long as you're not being harrassed or threatened, just make your daily trip without any comment.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 11:42pm
Ummm...Pianoguy....I don't believe that you read my post clearly or at all. I was saying this was someone I was interested in, and wanting advice ON THAT! Might want to go back and re-read. Thanks
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:01am

mommy2-2-785..

PG DID re-read your post and he still came up puzzled/

Why are you interested in making a play for Jeremy---when you're pregnant with someone else's child? Aren't you assuming that something more will come out of this? I'm not suggesting that the possibility of something with Jeremy ISN'T there...but I'll bet the majority of the men reading this look upon a pregnant woman as "off-limits?" Especially when it comes to the possibility of having a serious relationship?

A GOOD friendship between Jeremy and yourself is certainly possible? However, if you're expecting more than this, you'll probably be disappointed.

And I agree with your original thought that JEREMY PROBABLY FLIRTS WITH MOST OF THE WOMEN WHO RIDE ON HIS BUS!

According to a close friend who IS a bus driver---flirting comes naturally easy! Simply because it's considered a safer alternative than starting up a relationship or making any sort of commitment.

Pianoguy

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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:11am

Thank you PianoGuy for your advice. I went back and looked at my original post. I think it appeared like I was interested in this guy in a romantic fashion. Quite the contrary, I do think he's attractive...but only in a friendship way. Like I stated before I am pregnant. I think that would be totally inappropriate to engage in something of that nature during this time. I was curious how to approach him on a friendship level, witout sounding like I was trying to pick him up? Lol, think we got off to a bad start PianoGuy. Apologies in advance. Thanks