new - need advice about understanding me

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Registered: 12-14-2004
new - need advice about understanding me
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Tue, 12-14-2004 - 2:06pm
When I moved to a new area my best friend gave me the number of a guy that she had a one-time fling with. I just wanted to meet some people to hang out with because I didn't know anyone in the area. So, I met up with him and we hung out, had a great time, conversation...you name it. One thing led to another and we ended up spending the nite together. I was upset about this because he had been involved with my friend at one time. Anyhow, the next day we spent the whole time together and then he called me later that nite and we talked for over 5 hrs. It was clear that he wanted this to go somewhere, he wanted to date me and we made plans for the next weekend. Then the very next day he calls our mutual friend and asks her to come visit him and insinuates that he wants her to stay w/ him and share his bed. I already told my friend everything and it's just baffling to me that this guy is now trying to hook up with both of us. Why do men have to be such a**es?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 2:20pm
Hello kimm!

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 9:23am

TG...

AMEN! Your advice to kimm375 reinforces the fact that it ISN'T always the man who is aggressive. Women can be 'players' too! Unfortunately, when there are 2 women vying for the same man...one of those women will end up alone.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 10:47am
Hmmm not sure why he is an a**. You two are grown adults that made choices and aren't exclusive so you are free to date and sleep with whomever you want.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 1:28pm
Hey PG...