new relationship

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Registered: 04-22-2004
new relationship
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 12:44pm
Last January i broke up with my bfriend of 4 years, it has been very difficult for me as i really loved and still do. We are still sometime in contact but he lives now far away from me and i know things are done and over... i was not planning in meeting anyone til i get all my issues done and over too, but 2 months ago i met a guy that is totally the opposite of my ex ( a big bowl of fresh air).i do appreciate him and like to spend time with him, he is really smart,fun, cute, mature... the only problem is that i dont know if i can really involve myself as much as before...we have talked a lot and he is very understanding ( really havent met much guy like him!) and is ready to wait as sexually we have not made the step yet ...i really would like to see where this could bring us but i am wondering if this is the right timing? or the right thing to do? i am in no rush but i dont want to loose him either... i want to be sincere and honest with him and myself too...anyone having a insight or went through this please i just need a little advice....
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Registered: 05-15-2006
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 1:13pm
Nice guys don't come around too often. If you like this guy, GO FOR IT!!!!! What's stopping you. Have fun and enjoy yourself. Life don't wait on no one. You have to take chances when it comes to love. If you don't, you might wake up one day and regret the fact that you let a good man go. If you feel that maybe it's too soon. That's your decision, you have to do what you feel is right for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 7:26am

frenchrealation2004...

Suggestion from Pianoguy:

Take as much time as you need TO REALLY KNOW THE MAN before you decide to share his bed!

Contrary to what your friends might tell you, there is ABSOLUTELY NO TIME FRAME WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING INVOLVED WITH ANYBODY! If the person you think you want to be with has no patience and is trying to rush you...this is the type of behavior you'll experience from him (or her) later in life.

People who HONESTLY CARE ABOUT YOU aren't going to 'rush you along' according to their timetable. Two people involved in a new relationship have to work out their own timetable TOGETHER!

Pianoguy

P.S....don't make comparisons between any two boyfriends. Just like every woman is different...so are men! Some behavior traits might be similar, but it's completely unfair to expect similar reactions from a previous b/f...and a new one! :)

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 9:40am
You really need to be true to yourself here. You feel you are not ready to involve yourself too deeply for now and that is obviously the right decision for you. He is understanding and that is good, but even if he becomes less understanding you still need to wait til the timing is right.
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Registered: 04-22-2004
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 11:40am
thanks for your wise words...i knew this all along but it is aways better to have someone or validating it...