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| Sat, 11-13-2004 - 10:05pm |
Hi!! My name is Shawny04, I am an African-American female. I have 2 friends which are from Indoniesa and Africa. I have been told by the both of them that they enjoy my friendship because I am realistic and aggressive.I was born and raised in the US I handle situation from an aggressive standpoint.Because they were born in other country they take very passive standpoints to situations that I would not.MY friend who is Indian has a hard time saying No! She is 24 years old and in a relationship with a young man of the same culture. She has been dating this young man for quite some time now. She is planning to marry him next year. She has recently been faced with a situation. Her boyfriend came to her about his student loan bill. She felt the need to help him with his bill so that next year they would not have the financial burden of his loan with there other financial obligations. She gave him 10,000 dollars to go towards his bill and then she gave him an additional 3,000 dollars. She began thinking about the situation after she gave him the money. She believes that she has made a bad decision because he could have budgeted his money and made monthly payments but he hasn't paid or did anything. She recently sat down with him and explain to him that he has to take up the responsibilty of paying the remainder of the bill. They began arguing and he stormed off stating that he can not make a financial plan because his parents are part of his financial obligation and he must give them money.She is very upset now because she has given him this money and he has expressed his thought about his financial obligations. She doesn't believe that he is the one for her. My question to you is what do you think she should do in this situation? I believe that from observation and from previous conversation with my friend she is in a relationship with no man but a BIG BABY. Note: She doesn't live with him.
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| Sun, 11-14-2004 - 9:34am |
Good grief....$13,000! Was it a loan? Unless he signed something she might as well consider it a loss. It sounds to me that this girl is being used for her money. Especially considering that she tried talking to him about his finances and taking responsibility and he stormed off. He is being a complete jerk. She should drop him immediately! I would also not stop there... she should take him to court, I don't know the limit of small claims because $13,000 does not sound like a small claim but she should at least make an attempt to get her money back. I am sure she has proof that she gave him the money... Was it in check form and did she include a reason on the memo form of the check? maybe add 'student loan'? This would be helpful to her. I honestly think you are a very good friend to her to want to help. Tell her to demand the return of her monies and if he doesn't look like he's going to pay (which I guarantee you he won't) take his sorry a$$ to court. Geez, this didn't even happen to me and my heart is beating a mile a minute because I'm angry. Good luck! Lucy
