New r'ship & L word

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Registered: 10-12-2004
New r'ship & L word
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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 1:01pm

I've been seeing this guy for a couple weeks and he is totally awesome. I think we're both falling pretty hard. We see eachother every day and it's been wonderful. No sex yet, we're taking that part slow, I know we both want to wait because we want it to be special.

Anyway, we went out with our friends fri night we both had a lot to drink. After bar closed we got back to his place and I stayed over. We messed around a little and then layed there talking. And he said, "I love you to death, you are the most wonderful person I've ever met." I didn't know quite how to take that because we were both drunk. So I just hugged him and told him that I couldn't be happier. And then we went to sleep.

So should I just not worry about it and kinda pretend he didn't say it? I have no idea if he remembers saying it or not. And I don't want to embarrass him by bringing it up.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 1:13pm

Yeah, I would just leave that alone...I don't think the way he phrased it is quite saying "I love you" in any event (and thank goodness for that...that would freak me out after only a couple weeks of dating for sure!).

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:06pm

It still freaks me out after two months. But you know what, sometimes it's real, even if it's fast. That's what I'm living right now.

Just keep quiet about it - I do think that sometimes people's feelings come out when they're drunk, but I wouldn't bring it up yet. Just see how things go. I really like to make a point of NOT saying "I love you" first, just so I know he isn't saying it only because I said it first.

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:11pm

Hi Kwhere,

A couple of weeks and the guy is exclaiming "i love you" after being drunk and shooting his load on you?

don't believe it.

Give this a lot of time to evolve. You may find that lust isn't love.

Elyse

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:30pm

Yeah, actually she said they have not had sex.

Don't be so negative. Sometimes good things really do happen to good people.

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 8:00am

Thanks for clarifying to the other poster that we have not had sex. Some people are very negative. I can tell you right now, this guy is different. I know this is going to be the best r'ship I've ever had. So I'm not going to read too much into what he said, people say things without thinking when they've had a few drinks. But I know he likes me and cares about me because it shows every day when he calls me and wants to see me.

Hugs,
Morgan

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:03am
He was pretty drunk, I wouldn't mention anything. And you've only been seeing each other a few weeks - it's total honeymoon period so you can't hold him responsible for what he says at this stage.

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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 2:23pm
If you think he may not have truly meant it...wait. If he meant it, and it didn't seem to scare you off, he'll say it again. If you bring it up and he didn't mean it - it could make things awkward for the both of you and may damage what you've already built.
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 3:12pm
Yes if it was "love" at first blush it would be more apt to fade as that would more likely be infatuation.
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 3:47pm
I say Congrats. Don't say anything but enjoy if he meant it he will say it again in a sober state. I actually am in the same situation and if things feel right to you then they are. Me and my guy had already determined from the first date that we did not want to see other people and we had sex on the first date. I see him almost everyday and I know he cares about me. You make up your own set of rules depending on what is comfortable for you two :) I hope it all works out and if it doesn't you are having a great time right. Good luck :)I would not worry about it at all :)