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| Fri, 12-01-2006 - 11:10am |
So listen to this and tell me what you think:
A girl and a guy have been getting pretty serious recently after dating a few months. The girl mentions that they should maybe t would be nice to spend new years together. They are both 21 and in college. He asks how because she lives a few hrs away by plane than he does. She suggests that one goes to c the other and since where he lives is more fun, maybe they could spend it together or he could even visit her even tho his place is more fun and has a nightlife to go out for new years. He says his cousin is staying at his apartmnt with his family and he doesnt really have room. the girl says oh...encourages a few otehr options and the guy says maybe if we woulda planned it a bit earlier..the girl tried to pass it off as nothing but she was very hurt and it bothered her..the guy would probably act like nothing ws wrong but the girl would naturally get more distant to the guy...what should the girl do? Bring it up with him and make herself vulnerable or ignore it and really beleieve he just cant or doesnt have the time or planning for new years and he might be busy since the girl and guy got together and became serious again a month ago after dating on and off. The girl feels kind of hurt now because the guy was always the one to suggest hanging out and seeing her aevery day or even twice a day...how odd. when they are on breaks also from college, he always says he misses her. But now we r going for another break and the girl knows the guy is gonna be calling her and missing her.
A girl and a guy have been getting pretty serious recently after dating a few months. The girl mentions that they should maybe t would be nice to spend new years together. They are both 21 and in college. He asks how because she lives a few hrs away by plane than he does. She suggests that one goes to c the other and since where he lives is more fun, maybe they could spend it together or he could even visit her even tho his place is more fun and has a nightlife to go out for new years. He says his cousin is staying at his apartmnt with his family and he doesnt really have room. the girl says oh...encourages a few otehr options and the guy says maybe if we woulda planned it a bit earlier..the girl tried to pass it off as nothing but she was very hurt and it bothered her..the guy would probably act like nothing ws wrong but the girl would naturally get more distant to the guy...what should the girl do? Bring it up with him and make herself vulnerable or ignore it and really beleieve he just cant or doesnt have the time or planning for new years and he might be busy since the girl and guy got together and became serious again a month ago after dating on and off. The girl feels kind of hurt now because the guy was always the one to suggest hanging out and seeing her aevery day or even twice a day...how odd. when they are on breaks also from college, he always says he misses her. But now we r going for another break and the girl knows the guy is gonna be calling her and missing her.

tunatarter...
Pianoguy suggests that THE GIRL (and he's assuming that girl is YOU)...should make other plans for the upcoming New Year!
If the two of you had been dating for a year and wanted to mark your anniversary by starting 2007 together...then you've got an issue! But after only a few months of dating?
Sorry...but I think you're rushing the process.
Then again...if the 2 of you have been seeing each other practically EVERY SINGLE DAY (?) perhaps your b/f just wants "a break?"
Pianoguy
Hi PG! Hope all is well... Curious based upon your response... at what point do you think being together on NYE becomes appropriate? Do you think a man attaches some sort of significance to NYE? (I know you can't answer for all men, but just curious about where you're coming from.)
Hope the cold front coming your way doesn't hit too hard! I'll actually be visiting Barre, MA this week to see a client...
Hi Kerry!
Pianoguy wants you to be VERY CAREFUL when you head for Massachusetts. It's entirely possible that you're gonna get hit with a little snow? .
I might be in the minority here, but there's a big difference between celebrating the New Year after seeing someone for 6 months or more...as opposed to just a couple? It's not that two people CAN'T hang out and 'welcome 2007 together?' But their relationship is still BRAND NEW!
So if a couple plans to "start the new year off with a bang" (PG is clearing his throat)---the results might not be as satisfying as both of them expect? As a matter of fact, if the sexual expectations of one or the other are too great---the likelihood of celebrating Valentines Day together probably won't happen?
The longer you've known the person you're seeing---prior to pursuing any nocturnal activities---it's easier to avoid :
"A headache tomorrow or a heartache tonight!"
Pianoguy
Yikes PG... I totally forgot that I'm driving into the storm, aren't I? Ack. Thanks for your warning though, I'll definitely be careful. Maybe I'll bypass a lot of it... going to look at the weather now.
I guess I took your post from a different perspective and not the nightly activity one. I believe I took it as more of a thing where if you were in the early stages of dating, that NYE may carry too much significance for a date. You know, this has nothing to do with anything but... I just realized that every guy I ever celebrated NYE with I wound up breaking up with in the new year. But I wound up having a 2 year relationship with
Kerry...
PG hopes you made it Massachusetts and back safely today???
Southern Maine got about an inch of snow on Monday morning. But whatever was on the ground had COMPLETELY DISAPPEARED by the time I was ready to 'run a few errands!'
My younger brother (who is a 'computer guru' for the University of Maine at Orono) told me he took some TERRIFIC SNOW PICTURES!
Honestly, this is the first year I've ever seen him so happy about 'celebrating the upcoming holidays!'
Pianoguy