New Year's Eve

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Registered: 10-07-2003
New Year's Eve
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 4:40pm
Need to know whether I have a right to be hurt: My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. It will be our first holiday season together. He is spending Christmas with my family. He just informed me he is going home to his family's (two states away) for New Years Eve. No invitation for me to go with him. I have met his family and they have often invited me to come visit. However, he seems to be planning just to go home and spend the holiday with them, and not with me. Should I be hurt that he didn't even invite me to come? He doesn't seem to even care that we're not spending it together. I don't know what to think.

Thanks,

K

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:06pm
yep, i'd be really hurt too...i have been in a situation similar to that sooo many times with my man. I think you need to speak to him. Tell him that you feel hurt that he is not including you in his new years eve plans.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:46pm
He may not even realize that it has hurt your feelings. He may figure that you want to spend time with YOUR friends and family. You may just say that you would really love to be with him over New Years, just see what he says.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:23pm
If you've met the family and they've invited you to their home...and he's not inviting you to NY's, then yes, I would be upset at not being invited. Question is: even if you talk to him about your hurt feelings and 'wrangle' an invitation out of him, do you want to go knowing he wasn't interested in you being there??

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 9:07am
It's not about having a "right" to be hurt, you are hurt.

Something like this would NOT bother me as I don't get wrapped up with having to spend holidays with a SO and NYE isn't that important to me either. I'm not one to invite my bf to family gatherings unless I know I'm going to marry them, I'm 31 years old and they knew my exhusband that was it, other than that I don't bring boyfriends around to family functions.

I would just say to him that it hurt your feelings that he didn't invite you and see what his response is.

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 1:52pm
seems to be?

Sounds like you don't know either way. Maybe he just assumed that you would come wiht? Either way, you need to talk to him about it, cause communication should always be #1 in a relationship!