Newly Divorced - 1st Time Dating

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Newly Divorced - 1st Time Dating
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 9:41am
I was married for five years to a man who holds the title of "first" in many categories. Call me young, stupid...what have you...he really was the first and only guy I truly dated. I had friends in college, but no one I could consider my "boyfriend" until I met him. The divorce was final in June (I know...you are all thinking...it's too soon!) but truthfully he and I were separated for two years before deciding to end it.

I feel like I'm regressing to middle school - I don't know how to act, I don't know what to say...I've been on a couple dates with a really nice guy (I don't feel that spark BUT) but I was really uncomfortable. I don't want to just blurt out - Hey! You're the second guy I've dated! Cut me some slack if I don't know the ins and outs of it!

I've been fortunate to meet a few nice men since moving to California and I want to try and make things work. I just feel like a 27 year old possessed by a 13 year old's maturity level when it comes to dating.

Any words of wisdom? I'll welcome anything helpful! :) Thank you so much!


Jewels

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 10:41am
My divorce was final in July. It is great to be out in the dating world again, well sort of. I have my days that I hate guys and long for that comfortable feeling I once had with my husband. Just take it slow. You have plenty of people here to give you advice. Best of luck!
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Registered: 08-23-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:34am
Thanks. I have been lucky with finding guys - my problem is I have no idea "how" to date. I've never been on a date before. Like I said...I feel like a 13 year old trapped in the body of a 27 year old when I'm on a date. I never know what to say - how to act - I just feel clumsy.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 10:39am
Just be yourself. I found that I am much more comfortable being who I am on a date. Instead of trying to impress him by acting like something I am not. If my date doesn't like who I am, oh well.