no call?????

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Registered: 11-25-2003
no call?????
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 1:59pm
ok, i'm confused! my grandfather has been trying to set me up with "a really great guy" well the 2 times we have tried to meet he has gotten called into work, so he asked my grandpa for my numbers so he could call me. (he said something about a sporting event, and going to church with him) so last friday i send him my home # and cell # so he can give me a call. he has been really interested in meeting me. (ditto for me) well it has been a week and no call!! what gives?? should i forget about this?? or should i give him more time? how long is too long?? i have heard a TON about him and he is exactly what i'm looking for!!!! he's a kind, softspoken, hard working man, that eventually wants to go into the ministry, and he's not bad looking either. i have high standards and he fits everything i'm looking for!!!! i don't want to give up, i really want to meet him!! i would take the initiative and call him, but my grandpa wouldn't take his number! he says that its his job to call me! (i agree, to a point) how long do i wait?????
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: angelcdm228
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:06pm
Look, you don't know this guy personally - you have no idea except via second hand info as to what sort of person he is. So stop projecting the "he's everything I ever wanted" into this scenario.

Look at the facts..the guy has your number and hasn't called, despite saying to your grandfather he would. Does he work for your grandfather - is he just being polite or socially correct in taking your number, saying what he's saying because he odesn't want to cause ripples right now....and isn't thinking about the future at all?

Bottom line is this...if the guy is really interested in meeting you and finding out if you're his type...he'll call. If he's only interesting in hanging out and hooking up - he won't probably because of the connection with your grandfather.

If you had his number..the problem would be that you'd suggest that you two meet and "hang out_ and if that led somewhere you'd assume it meant he likes you - when what he was after was "it". He could then reply to your grandpa when asked about why he wasn't pusuing anything "she's been too pushy, or too easy, and I don't date girls like that."

Let it go..if he wants to date you - he'll call.

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: angelcdm228
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:43pm
You need to allow him to pursue you. The fact is, he has your phone numbers. He can call, if his hand is broken, he can get someone to dial the numbers for him. I know it is hard to wait, but delaying gratification often has its rewards.

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Registered: 04-07-2004
In reply to: angelcdm228
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 3:38pm
It's of my belief that it takes only a matter of moments to make one phone call. If he doesn't bother, then don't built up your expectations on someone you haven't even met yet. Besides, family often builds up people that they think would be good for you, even unintentionally. Keep looking around you; if you wait by the phone for him, you may miss the guy who will actually call you!