No call... what happened?
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| Mon, 07-31-2006 - 10:33pm |
My friend from work set me up on a blind date with one of his friends. His friend had my number for over a week before he called. But apparently he was sick and didn't want to call me until he was feeling better and could set a date up.
So He called me last wed and we went out thursday. We were originally going for coffee, he got there late (called me to let me know that he would be late). He called me from the parking lot and asked if that was me he could see waiting inside which it was. He then asked if I would rather go to dinner than just a coffee. So that's fine we went for dinner. Conversation was great, very few awkward pauses, we talked about our careers, the traveling we have done and would like to do (both very similar) we talked about our families, a little about the friend who set us up. He talked about his long days at work but how much he loved it and mentionned that my career must have long days as well which I agreed. He thanked me for joining him for dinner. He said he was so shy and nervous about calling me but he was glad he did. I agreed that I was glad he had as well. He asked if I would want to hang out some more and see where things go. I said yeah sure give me a call. (This was said during dinner.) He even brought up this comment that someone at work made as a joke for my buddy to tell his friend about me. I laughed because the comment itself is so hillarious and then for him to mention it was even funnier because I wasn't expecting that at all. I thought wow he must be comforable with me to have said that. We carried on with dinner our great conversation continued talking about spirituality and tattoos. He then pulled out the slip of paper he had my number written on and asked which number it was (ie cell or home) and if it was the right number. Which is was. He offerred dessert or coffee to which I declined I was full from dinner. The bill came and he paid for everything I offered to at least pay my own share but he said no absolutely not. We then headed back to my car. He was an absolute gentleman holding open doors and so forth. He shook my hand and thanked me very much again for the date that he had a great time. He said he was busy over the weekend with a stag and a wedding. But he would call me on Monday and leave a message. I said for sure that would be great. As I was getting out he said it was great to meet me that I had a great and personality and great laugh. (Which I thought was kind of a funny thing to say)
I thought the date was fairly promising that there would be the call afterwards. Even when I talked to my guy friends they said it sounded like he was nervous but things sound promising and the fact that he said a day he would call you instead of just randomly saying he would call was a good sign. So here we are monday night and no phone call. My friend who set us up said nothing to me today about him. He told someone else that we work with that he talked to the guy but they only talked about what was going on this weekend. Which while I was on the date the guy said he just took my number from J my buddy and that's all. (which was fine I don't want J to feel like he is in the middle and he doesn't want to be.) But when J asked me how things went when I saw him on Friday he said his friend told him he would call him to let him know how things went. J said he was pleased to hear things went well and that he sees no reason why there wouldn't be a second date.
I guess my questions are.....
Is there still hope that he will call?
Why do guys have to play this silly game of waiting to call or even to say you are going to call and want to hang out some more and then don't call? I know it's the never ending question but why say it if you don't mean it. He was the one that kept bringing up calling me again and going out again not me.
It just seemed like all signs pointed to yes why has it suddenly gone to no.
This is a bit of a sidebar I just wanted to see if it was true....
My friends have said it's a good sign that he doesn't kiss you after the first date (which is this case I don't know that I would have been ready for anyways). They said that they have heard that the guy is serious about you if he doesn't kiss you that he then waits for the second date because then at least he knows you were serious enough for a second date. Is this new idea true?

I's give this guy time to process the info about how the date went. He seesm the type of man who needs time to think about it, a tad slow for my taste. He may call you after a week or so. He did this before you had the first date, didn't he? He has your number so he'll call when he wants. I wouldn't go around asking firneds about what he thinks, those comments could get to his ears and ruin the chance for you.
As for kissing or not during the first date I rather hug or shake hands. It's a mith about kissing and not and I don';t think the guy would be more interested if he doesn't. I've heard of girls who are kissed on their first date and they go out again with the guy.