no intimacy, is there something wrong?

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Registered: 12-14-2004
no intimacy, is there something wrong?
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Tue, 12-14-2004 - 1:07pm
I've been dating this guy for 6 weeks and we're intimate but it seems that he's just not that interested in it. it seems that even when we are in bed, he's not into it. normally a guy is all over me especially this early on in a relationship but it seems we only sleep together once every couple weeks and hardly even kiss or anything.
Is this an indicator of something that's deeper?
thanks!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 1:36pm

daisy boo...

You just illustrated something that some women do...THAT MOST MEN HATE! You're comparing your previous relationships to the one you're having right now! Hate to be blunt, but Pianoguy thinks this bad habit will eventually kill things between the 2 of you entirely!

While men are usually more aggressive in the bedroom---or at least seem to 'come on that way'---a few of us aren't quite sure if we can...err...'measure up to your expectations?' So rather than run the risk of disappointing you (and ourselves)...we abstain entirely.

It's just a thought....but...there's always the possibility that your b/f got badly scarred (aka teased about his performance) by someone in a previous relationship? And while you didn't reveal his age (some men start to lose certain 'abilities' or 'body functions' when they reach 35 or 40), this MIGHT be the reason your b/f isn't ready to go "5 rounds with you" when he sleeps over?

After 6 weeks of being as close to him as you've been, do you think you could 'delicately' bring up the subject? You might receive an answer from him that'll take you completely by surprise!!!

Pianoguy