No Proper "Dates" But "Hang Outs"?!

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Registered: 07-28-2004
No Proper "Dates" But "Hang Outs"?!
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 2:07pm

Hi everyone,

How are you? This issue has been getting on my nerve lately.

OK, Lately, I have been meeting young guys (Age 25-30-ish). Well, maybe it's not even the age issue, but could be some recent "style" or "trend" or something. I didn't see that a lot before. Anyway, so lets say that I meet one guy, he likes me, I like him, he wants to see me again. Fine. The thing is that he'd ask me like, "So we should hang out!" I'm like, "OK..., fine." I mean, I do think that we can "hang out", sure, nothing doesn't seem to be wrong with the idea. Those type of guys wouldn't ask me out to proper dates, you know, taking me out to nice decent places for dinner, lets say. I'm so not saying that I'm one og the girls that need all the facy stuff from guys all the time, not at all! But those who want to hang out with me would just want to get some drinks, or coffee. I'd accept that if I like him, but then, that "hang out" doesn't lead to the future "dates". See, if the hang out is just the first time to see if we wanna see each other more in the future, then it's fine.

I used to have guys who wanted to really take me out, especially during our early stage of the dating. Those would plan well ahead of time, when, where, gave me even choices of which restaurant to go to. You know, nice date. I could see that they wanted to make good impressions of themselves, that they wanted to pursue me or something. Again, I don't like guys who constantly feel like they have to impress me by what they can offer me, no, my point is that these guys at least show that they try their best to get my attention. On the other hand, those who only want to "hang out", don't they want to make good impressions of themselves?! Don't they have a pride to be men or something?! Not even a pride, but like, don't they wanna feel good about themselves by seeing me all happy and impressed...??

Is it just me losing interest in those after 3 "hang outs"?! I mentioned about the age thing, again, I'm not sure if that's the case, maybe. I'm also 25 like themselves. Is it like some sort of "style" now?! Is this happening to you guys?

If you have any opinions or thoughts, please let me hear them. I'll be very appreciated. Thank you!!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Hello sunshine!