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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 7:27pm |
Hi, I posted earlier this morning under "serious candidate or not"...
Well, I did not receive his phone call at all! I have been waiting all day.
Strange, isn't it?
This was to be our first date.
We had exchanged numbers. He said he would call me before he said bye to me yesterday at work. We had decided which restaurant after an extended discussion of what kinda food or places we like and don't like. I know for a fact the lunch was today, both of our off-days. We had not decided the exact time though. I figured he would call me first thing in the morning to decide that, or atleast by 10..11am.
Sometime back, I called him for the first time (we have never spoken on the phone). It went straight to the machine after 3 rings. I hung up.
After all the interest he showed me, why this? Is this a game he is playing to gauge my level of interest? Or has he been in an emergency? Did he lose my number?
Tomorrow at work, how should I react?
I am totaly bummed out, and very disappointed and surprised at his disrespectful behavior. I kept myself hungry for until 1pm, until I gave up and had food at home.
I am still wayyy wayy way too surprised. This date was in the works since the last 3 weeks, when he had been trying for us to meet. And when the day finally dawns, he gives me a no show?

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Folks, let's chill this out... remember that we all have to agree to disagree here. No one's right or wrong, well except for me because I'm always right! Kidding... but seriously... it's all about giving opinions here, not trying to change how each other thinks.
Peace, love and happiness!
I just read all the posts....and thank you! It has been enlightenign hearing everyone's opinion. I am still quite confused whether he is genuine or not. As in, in his intentions. What exactly does he want from me? He suggested lunch (which was nice instead of a dinner, for a first date/outing), and he suggested things like "taking a walk in the park so we can talk"(again, a very decent thing), and said he is honestly excited to be able to learn so much from me (I am a different culture).
Now, the points that make me doubt him: Since the time he had my number, he had about 2 weeks till I finally said I can meet him. All those 2 weeks, while he had my number, he hesitated to call me (even when he said he would call). Why that hesitation to dial my number? Just shyness/anxiety...or a bad habit of not following thru...or maybe just not that interested? Who knows. Additionally, if he had my number for 2 whole weeks before the date of meeting was set, how come he still hadn't stored my number somewhere.
His IM'ing me and getting a coversation going without even introducing himself to me in person...is another point, yes.
And there was a point when he mentioned that he feels there is a wild side in me, and we can "explore it further". OMG! I was so dumbstruck when he wrote that, I did not know what to say! He had told me something...(I dont remember now) and I found that a bit hypocritical so I said "so where were these smooches that you gave me?" (twice, when I was leaving for the day, he IM'd me smooches which really took me by surprise) and he immediately said he was blushing. And that's when he said that "wild side" comment. *shrugs*. But it makes me wonder, whether a sexual relation is what his GOAL is. Who knows.
To the poster who posted last(sorry I forgot your screen name)...no, I wouldn't say I find him very hot or he is in a high position. He is a colleugue in another department. He is decent looking and is friendly with everyone and jokes with people. And it was good everytime we met at work (before this thing happened). Talk was cordial and polite and there definitely was a lil spark..the way he looked at me or how he shook hands and held it for just a second longer. That is the impression I hold so far.
And now, things are just weird. I hope everyday that I don't run into him.
I am afraid to "become normal" again with him, firstly, because, I am still a bit resentful with what happened. And he hasn't "properly" made it up to me in anycase. He just apologized on IM and that's it. Which leads me to think, he doesn't think it's worth it anymore. 2ndly, He could be out for just a sexual encounter, and I don't want that. 3rdly, I dont want to seem desparate for his company.
So there goes.
Starbuck, yes, he might possibly be Im'ing here and there to see how I respond, and until and unless I give him a strong vibe that I am over it completely, or tell him point blank that we can go out sometime, I doubt he will ask me. But I doubt if I am going to be all *normal* again with him like before..
It is allright. No biggie I guess. Good that I am not emotionally entangled. Unfortunately, I am quite sensitive, and like a sponge, and I tend to take things in deeper...so it ends up affecting my peace of mind.
Thanks to everyone again.
*Hugs*
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