Non-Aggressive Attention Getter

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Registered: 08-23-2005
Non-Aggressive Attention Getter
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 11:42am

I have noticed lately that I've devloped an attraction to a long time friend. We've grown up together and have always been extra friendly with each other. Hugs are always prevelant. A few months ago, he worked on my house whiel I was at work. The next time I saw him I hugged him and thanked him. He pressed his lips to my ear and told me it was no problem. I'd love to go out with him. Ask him to dinner or a concert. Something. There's just one problem. .... he's younger than I am, by 6 years. The age difference doesn't matter to me. younger, older, it's just okay. We are all old enough to know better.... it's just that our families have been friends for so long that I'm afraid that asking him out would seem insane to him (and/or everyone else).

He's not dating anyone and neither am I. And we are both looking for the same type of people.

Is there anyone to get his attention and push him towards maybe asking me out without being too obvious?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:09pm

Have you ever said anything to him that indicated you would NOT be interested in dating him?

If not, then if he's interested in you romantically, he'll ask you out.

If you have said something to indicate you wouldn't date him, then you need to correct that impression.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:26pm
You can't make somebody ask you out. Take him out for coffee and discuss your wishes. He might feel the same way.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 3:10pm
Maybe you can ask him over for a home cooked meal as a
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