Non-Mormon and Mormon relationship?
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| Sun, 09-19-2004 - 11:30pm |
I would like some input on dating someone of a different religion, specifically a Mormon. Does anyone here have any experience with this? I was wondering if it is really possible to have a long-term relationship with someone who is a Mormon if you are not one. I am not religious at all (and have no desire to be) but I did read up a little on this topic and there seems to be this general consensus that if you are not a Mormon but your significant other is, it will not work out. The reason stated was that eventually they will eventually regret not being able share his happiness, going to church, afterlife, etc. (of the religion)with you. Are there any non-mormons who have dated (long-term) or married a mormon, and your relationship is really strong or is not affected by religion? I'd really like your thoughts on the subject. Thanks!

While I'm not Mormon myself nor have I ever dated anyone who was Mormon, I can only offer you secondhand advice.
My college roommate (male) dated a girl for about six months who was Mormon. She was his first love and they were considering marriage. She taught him a lot about her religion and told him that even though she was Mormon, she still wanted to date him. But later on in their relationship, she told him she wouldn't be able to continue the relationship unless he converted. He's very Christian, but far from even considering to convert to this religion, so they ended the relationship. He talked to me a lot about the religion and told me that he would never make that mistake again. While he didn't judge her based on her religion, it was a huge deal that he needed to be Mormon too.
I'm sure, like every religion, there are exceptions to the rules (where some families won't mind if you date outside your religion), but I've talked with a lot of Mormon students when I was in college and they all told me they could never marry someone who wasn't Mormon. If you're willing to convert, I think that's great, but be prepared now that a differing of religions is going to be a huge deal if you pursue a relationship this person.
I wish you the best of luck!
Thanks for your advice! Yeah, that's what I'm assuming, that even if it wasn't a big deal early on, eventually, it would present itself in a heart-breaking way. I'm sorry your roommate had to experience it first hand, and the fact that he wouldn't convert was the main reason they ended things. I've never really had that much experience with Mormons, so your story certainly helps!
Thanks for the advice. It's interesting to hear from a mormon what you think about this. Nothing is actually happening between us, because of certain circumstances. I was merely curious after meeting him, how others fare with this situation, if they'd been in one, and if it is possible to work out. The thing is, though, he has told me that it wouldn't be a problem if we were together, but I'm thinking that thought would only last for so long.