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| Mon, 04-24-2006 - 2:14pm |
Hello everyone,
I got so many advices from you wonderful people here I thank you very much for make me realize few things I missed,and for giving me eye openning advices. Five days ago I ended up a relationship with guy I dated for 8months. I told him I am not happy that he put it me at the bottom of his list he doesn't have time for me we weren't doing very much for over four months and he wasn't trustworthy. What it hurts me the most is we decided to be exclusive about two months we start dating and we agree to delete the profiles and we did. After two months or so I found out he posted another profile and I told him that I found it, his answer was he was just chatting not for dating( and I know for sure he wasn't dating) but his options were open and that left me angry as a reason I decided to end it and I did.
I was there anytime he needed me I stood up for everything support that he need motionaly, physicaly and mentally. Because he have so many problems in his divorce. I do understand I shouldn't help that much but that is what I do for living.
I haven't got any appology from him for not been there or waisting my time. now I feel used and betrayed. The only thing I want or to hear from him is sorry what he did.
Is it ok to demand appology from him and why he did this to me?
Thank you.
Carina

carina1368...
PG knows it's probably too late to tell you this....but "being exclusive" after only a few months of dating someone---who has put you at THE BOTTOM OF HIS LIST---is pushing the envelope much too quickly. Here's why...
If this man still has "divorce afterthoughts"---he's not going to GET SERIOUS with YOU or ANYBODY! .
You're probably gonna feel 'used and betrayed' (your terms) for awhile, but expecting an apology from this idiot ISN'T LIKELY!
Try to learn from the unfortunate experience and don't let yourself 'fall into this type of trap' again.
Pianoguy
Hi PG,
Thank you for your advice I think you are right. It's sometimes we need(closure)when it hurts, I didn't know what to think. I learnt so many things on the hard way from this and it won't happen again for sure.
Thanks again.
Carina.
I'm sorry for the pain you're going through but VERY GLAD that you finally ended it!!!!
You can "demand" an apology all you want...but in my experience, men who would treat a woman like this rarely apologize for their behavior or even think that they've done anything wrong. Don't hang on to that as a "requirement" in your mind...otherwise you'll be stuck and not able to move on.
Sheri
Sorry for all your pain and ugliness with this guy.
Hi sheri,
I want to thank you all for taking the time to make me feel better and realize from right to wrong, from wrong to right.I already feel better he is not worth my time.
Thank you again.
Carina