Not allotta kissy kissy yet

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Registered: 02-14-2005
Not allotta kissy kissy yet
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 8:42am

Hey everyone; I have been seeing an absolutely GREAT guy for about a month, but we've been taking all areas really slow. We talk on the phone twice a week, see each other for a good long lasting date on a Saturday OR Sunday, have great conversations, etc. We are really getting along well and slowly connecting. He told me that he is extremely attracted to me. I can definitely tell his relationship mantra is "take things slow", but I can easily see that he is really growing to like me more and more.

First few dates he was not too affectionate; **this past date he was finally very warm, PDA's, hugs, holding hands, embracing, etc**. We did kiss once on our second date- but it wasn't mind blowing- he almost seemed not ready yet. I am not used to this, and I'm feeling a little concerned.

I am praying that he is a little more generous in the kiss department this Saturday, when I see him. I am NOT going to push him, as I guess I did on our second date. I will let him take the lead. But if I see no kisses coming at the end of our date, I guess we'll have to have a talk?

Does this sound fair?

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 12:35pm

Wait a sec, I'm confused...is this the same guy who blew you off a couple weekends ago? How did that get resolved?

Sheri

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:03pm

HAHA! Yeah, good memory! I updated from that post "Missed his call, was I wrong?"

Short version: He called the next night, Monday, and I was very short with him, he didn't apologize. Figured I'd never hear from him again. So he calls the NEXT night (Tuesday now) and as soon as I answered he started apologizing- admitting that he acted like a complete jerky guy. Starts admitting asap, he should have called Saturday to confirm our Sunday date, at the least- definitely NOT Sunday at 2 pm. He kept apologizing and told me it would NEVER happen again, and he'd make it up to me this past weekend, which he did. This time, he called Wednesday to confirm our Saturday date, and a great date it was!

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:27pm

Excellent! Glad to hear it!

So, re the kissing thing...how many dates have you had now? And the only time you've kissed was when you initiated it, is that right?

Sheri

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:20pm

HHmmnn, I'd say this past Saturday was our third serious date; we met twice with others there. First date, I don't kiss usually anyway (go ahead, laugh!); second date he seemed really nervous/shy- so yeah, I initiated it. Third date this past weekend- he did kiss me on the lips quite a few times, and he was SUPER warm & affectionate finally. But we didn't have a makeout session. He was seriously ill and home from work all week (actually popping Tylenol that night of our date, twice) but he refused to cancel our date, because of how he screwed up the weekend before.

BUT this weekend he will be healthy as an ox. So he better put out or get out (kiss wise, I mean)! Jeez, I sound like a guy, hahahaha!

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:31pm

Oh, ok, I misunderstood your post...I thought he wasn't kissing you *at all* since the kiss you initiated.

Personally, I don't like to kiss before the 3rd date, anyway, so what he's doing would be fine with me! And I prefer to keep it at the "light kiss" stage for a while.

Sheri