Not attracted anymore? Anyone feel it to

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Registered: 08-01-2005
Not attracted anymore? Anyone feel it to
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Tue, 11-14-2006 - 11:03pm
I have been married for 34 years now and adore my husband BUT I am not sexually attracted to him very much anymore. I feel terrible saying this but it's really only because of his looks. He's gained weight, lost his hair and I seem to see all the bad things in him lookswise and not the good. I know I sound terrible but I don't know what to do about this since I really love him so much. But it's true.
I look very young for my age and keep myself in tip top shape, weight wise, clothing wise, makeup, hair, you name it and he's so proud to be with me. But I really wish that he was the attractive man that I married. Oh gosh, I just feel terrible. Please don't say just look at all his good points because I try and do that but in bed I just don't feel any attraction although he's a wonderful lover. When we do make love I picture other men in my mind.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 5:53am

Hi,


I think you might be able to find help at one of the marriage boards. I would love to be able to sit here and give you advice, but personally don't feel qualified as the longest relationship I've ever had was 4 years! Try the Happily Married board and then take a look to see if any others would fit the situation.


Good luck. I know the folks at the marriage boards will be able to help you!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 7:28am

doc_jeun...

It's only PG's opinion, but maybe you need to bring up the 'let's exercise together' issue with your husband...before you decide to TOSS IN THE TOWEL? Depending upon his attitude...and how much he loves you...he'll either be receptive or negatory about the idea!

Now if you have your heart set on "dumping him for somebody else"---no amount of exercise on his part will change your mind!

So my question is..."are you willing to give your husband a chance?" "Or are you just looking for an excuse to END your 34-year marriage?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 9:21pm

Pehaps in as diplomatic a way as possible you could help him diet, spruce up the wardrobe, etc.

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