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Not going to do it
| Sun, 03-14-2004 - 12:47am |
I've been thinking about my friend's offer to set me up with her ex. I'm glad and greatful for the posters who think that this is too wierd. Yes, I'd like to get out of the house and do things grown-ups do, but not like that. I'm just not comfortable. The reason I'm not looking for a man is simply because I dont want to go looking. I've always felt that it would happen if it's supposed to. So far, nothing. I hate the bar scene, and I just don't have it in me to do the online dating thing. My standards are very high and I know what my priorities are. I will not sacrifice "me" for anyone.

But as for not "looking" for a man, if you don't do it, it's probably not going to just happen.
You say you have your standards and everything, and that is fine, but consider that you apparently were tempted by this "weird" situation, or at least intrigued enough to come here and ask what people thought.
That tells me that you may not be as content to just wait for something to happen as you say.
Are you perhaps fearful of having to compromise yourself if you go out there and look. Not true! It may make it harder, maybe a lot harder, but you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
You have to make value judgements all throughout life and likewise, you have to adjust meeting methods, goals, and standards if the desired result is not what you desire.
I agree with you about the bar scene. And, I will point out that online meeting is great for some and not exactly others' cup of tea. Whatever you are comfortable with.
But, I think you are wise not to meet the friend's ex. After all, he is an ex for a reason... And, if she feels that he is worthy of you going out with him how come she isn't still married to him? That one just raised a big question for me...
tg