Not Sure

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Not Sure
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 10:42am
Dating this guy, he has a 3 year old child, he is 23 I am only 19. I love kids and really like this guy, my problem is he works 5 days a week 3-11 I work 8-5 so he comes out maybe 3-4 times a week around 11:30 or so and stays until 3 or better. I don't mind that at all it doesn't bother me. When we first started talking he said we can be friends and see where is goes from there, well it has only been about 3 weeks since we started talking he calls everyday when he gets up, gets home, wants to hang out calls me, I never have to call likes making plans to get together and do things we BOTH like not just him, and he has just mentioned me meeting his son! Do I make a big deal out of this or just let it flow and see what happens? I am really starting to get into him and I don't want to do something that I am going to regret.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 12:12pm

confusedbutamazed...

PG suggests that you NOT PUSH THINGS BEYOND FRIENDSHIP....at least for the moment!

Why?

Because you might become nothing more than "a designated babysitter" for his 3-year old!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 8:34am
I agree but the only thing now is that we are going to a local hotel for the entire weekend.... He has agreed to not try anything, "that's not what I am into you for!" A line of respect to get some or a real line of respect. I have no reason to be this insecure about him, but guys in the past make me this way!
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 3:16pm

....."we are going to a local hotel for the entire weekend.... He has agreed to not try anything, "that's not what I am into you for!" A line of respect to get some or a real line of respect.".....

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:45am
I guess I should of mentioned, I went to school with his sister for years all he family know him. Trust me I would not run off to a hotel just with some guy I have known for 3 weeks. It's kinda like old friends reuntied but never really talked in the first place. Making since? He is 4 years older than me so growing up I was a nobody, but know we are older he is interested.... I am taking your advice about not doing anything but kissing, just because I really like him and can't take being used AGAIN! Thanks so much for your responses
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 9:47am

IT'S only been 3 weeks so everything is still rather preliminary -but do you mean he comes at 11:30 PM til 3:AM every nite - that doesn't sound ideal at all. It sounds like bed buddies.


Do you see each other on the weekend at all? As for the son just be casual and act toward the child like a friend, the child has a mom, right? How long ago did this guy and his ex break up?


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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 8:51pm
Bed buddies, no! When he comes up we watch a couple movies, flirt, wrestle around, nothing sexual ever. He kisses me good night, calls when he makes it home and we talk for about 30 mins after that. As for the baby, he is with his mother 3-4 days a week then with daddy the other days and vise versa. I am meeting the little guy this weekend! Now as for this past weekend at the hotel.... he tried NOTHING, we got in the whil pool, cuddled, went out to dinner, watched tv, nothing out of the ordinary.... When he dropped me off today, he told me how he had a great time and was so glad that I was respective to myself.... He was glad nothing happened.... So I dunno, I am playing to casual and not getting to close or to open..... Hopefully everyting goes ok..... Thanks for the input