Not sure if I'm that special to him

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2003
Not sure if I'm that special to him
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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 11:28am

I've been dating a guy for 1 1/2 months, seeing him twice a week lately and the last three Saturdays.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 12:36pm

Well, personally, I think you have articulated exactly what happened.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 1:05pm

Honey, 1 1/2 months is nothing to be thinking in dating "exclusively". He's dating more women, but being sexual with you AND others perhaps? If you've had bad experiences in the past regarding sexual behavior, then what are you doing sleeping with this guy before talking exclusive? Ya know, you're sleeping with all the other women as well.


I'd stop the sex and date other men, like he's dating other women. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. This way, you'll be choosing and not waiting to be chosen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 1:15pm

Did you talk to him about dating other people before or after getting physical?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2003
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 2:19pm
We have not had sex at all but I just said we have been getting more physical ie. him touching my breasts and being physically close with our clothes on.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 2:29pm

I personally would cut him off, as in not see him anymore.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 3:29pm

Looking at exclusivity after 6 weeks is not too soon.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 6:17pm

If I am reading this correctly, the two of you never had a coversation about only dating each other?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:28am
Honestly, sometimes I find this whole concept of non-exclusive dating mind-boggling. Here in Europe what he is doing would be called cheating, full stop - no matter whether it's been 6 weeks or 6 months, as exclusivity is pretty much assumed from the very start.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 11:50am

Hi Newlyfoundsunshine,


I completely 100% agree with how you feel. It's not just Europe where some people believe that, it's me too and I'm in the U.S.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2004
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 1:17pm

You asked him a question ... he gave you an honest answer, that he was still seeing other people ... which he (and you) are allowed to do prior to establishing exclusivity ... if being exclusive is what you want and its not what he wants, then ... you cut your loses.

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