Not sure what to think?

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Not sure what to think?
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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 8:46am

I'm sure i'm over thinking this one, but i'm curious. I met a guy a week and a half ago at a bar. Once we met we chatted until i left. He got my number. He called 2 days later, we had a good conversation. He let me know he was going home to his parents house (out of state) on wed and would be gone till this past sunday, but would i want to meet up when he gets back. I said sure. So he called this past monday, but he didnt leave a voicemail. I wasnt sure what to do at first...i jsut had a missed call. friends told me to just call back. He answered when i called. We talked for a little over 10 min. He asked me what nights i'm free this week. The one night i wasnt free was the night he wanted to do something. He had plans to see a b-ball game tuesday and tonight. he seemed uncomfortable asking for a friday date, but it came off as sort of uninterested to me. He said yeah we can get a bite to eat, then some drinks, then maybe you can meet up with you friends or something. I was a bit put off by that. I know we dont know each other well, but we have met face to face, had a conversation 3 times now...i would think it's past the point of worrying about having a bad time but whatever. He then suggested we meet at 5:30pm. I was like, how about 6 since i work till 5? what is up with such an early date on a friday? If he has plans later, maybe he should have just suggested another night?


What do you think? I just dont want to waste my time with someoen who's not really interested in me.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 10:44am
Mmm... you're over thinking it. He's calling and wanting to go out with you, but wants to keep things casual for now. If you're into him, just go with the flow. Say yes to your Friday night rendezvous, but make sure to have plans after that. If things go great, maybe he'll come with you... keep YOUR options open.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 1:55pm
He sounds elusive.
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 9:18am
ok well he called tonight like he said he would. He actually called twice, then left a voicemail...maybe that's what he was going to do monday, lol. His voicemail said he was on his way out, thinks that the place he's going to has no cell phone service, so he will call or text me later, if it's too late he'll call in the AM. He said he's still planning on meeting me at 6 tomorrow at the square we discussed. I got out of class at 9, had the message. I'm thinking i wont call him back since he said he'd call or text me? I guess if i havent heard from him by tomorrow afternoon then i'll call him? we havent picked a place to eat yet.
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Registered: 09-28-2007
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:33am

Hello Molly311!


Well, It sounds like he is interested in getting to know you better if he makes an attempt to go out with you and hang out. On the early date at 5:30, It seems like he wants to start the night out early with you, maybe give you guys more time to spend time with each other..


I would def give it a go. you never know! It might be great!


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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:46am
His discomfort could have been shyness.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 11:13am

Good luck on your date! He will call, give him that chance. I read somewhere that on the first date (or three) that guys tend to meet on the early side of the night so if it doesn't go well, there's the out. If it does, it opens up the night for more spontaneous ideas. So if you meet for dinner, and it goes well, maybe you can go out for drinks, dancing, movie, walk whatever afterwards.


Remember, it also leaves YOUR night open for possibilites too. You might not like him after sitting with him during dinner. Sometimes our "fantasy" ideals of a date aren't always reality.


Go with it, have fun and keep us posted!

PATTY


~Dare to believe in yourself~

PATTY

~Dare to believe in yourself~

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 2:54pm
thanks...he called again while i was at lunch...i called him back, left a vm...now i'm waiting for him to call again..hate all this phone tag stuff
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 5:49pm
Glad to hear he followed through!
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Registered: 09-23-2007
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 8:39am
How did it go, Molly?
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 10:31am
well the date seemed like it went pretty well. We were together for 4 hours, so i guess it wasnt as short as i thought it would be. We had dinner, some drinks, talked a lot. He did end up going out with friends after, he said he didnt want to, but i guess one of his friends is moving so he had promised him.

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