not sure what to think or do....

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Registered: 06-27-2004
not sure what to think or do....
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:18am
Me and my ex-boyfriend,*Jake*, broke up a while back because he's long distance. Well he wants to get back together and move in together, and I really wanted that, until about a week ago I met this wonderful guy,*Mark*, and we have went out almost everyday together and we have had so much fun, and i'm really falling for him. We was talking the other night and he said he really loves being with me, he's just not ready to get in a serious relationship, and I understand that, cause i'm not in the position to get in one myself right now, but about my ex, i'm not sure what to do because i really like Mark, and I really thought i loved Jake but now i'm not so sure, because me in this guy really hit it off and get along so good, its just great spending time with him. He's so different then any other guy i've ever dated. I'm really happy when i'm with him, but i need to make a decision, I mean if i choose Mark that doesn't mean we'll get in a serious relationship because we're not ready but we're still happy together. If i choose Jake then i'll probably have a relationship with him, and move in together and now i'm not so sure thats what i want. I think in my mind i know what to do i'm just not so sure how to do it. I think i want to give me and Mark a chance and see what happens, but how do i do that without hurting Jake, because i just may find out that I want to be with him, and I'm just so confused and scared. I do not want to hurt either one, their both great guys, I just think Mark is more of my type because he's so affectionate and we just click. Its wonderful being with him. Me and Jake, well i'm not so sure how to describe us, its weird, we get along sometimes, but usually fight over little stuff, and half the time i'm not happy when i'm with him, cause he doesn't act like he cares and i'm the type of person that i really want to know that you love me. Please help me, I'm so confused and really need some advice. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:24am
In your post-you state that you are not ready for a serious relationship yourself--so why are you even considering letting Jake move in?