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| Sun, 11-14-2004 - 5:50pm |
To introduce myself, I am Patricia. I am a high school junior, and this is my first time coming to this board. I’m here in hopes of getting some answers to some questions, and perhaps even some been-there-and-done-that insight to the situation I am in right now.
At sixteen, I am your typical good high school student; I take Honors and AP courses, I participate in clubs and sports, and overall, I get straight As and Bs, and score pretty well on exams and tests. I’ve also never been interested in guys, nor have experienced being in a relationship…until now. I feel like those characters in Shakespeare’s plays—the one who always scorned and laughed at love, only to have it come back later and bite them in the butt. The one who so happened to stop me in my tracks did so near the end of my sophomore year last year, and ever since, I have not been able to forget about him. I call him George, because he looks like my favorite Beatle (yes, I listen to The Beatles, and yes, I LOVE them.), George Harrison, with those dark eyes and tall, lanky frame. Unfortunately, he’s a senior this year, and will be graduating in six months. Fortunately, though, he happened to have Trigonometry in the same period as me, and we are only right next door to each other when we have English, although he has the regular senior English class while I have AP. He’s a really sweet person, and I can tell right off the bat that he was well-raised by his parents, which is so rare among guys today. I have actually talked to him several times, so now I can’t say that he doesn’t even know I exist (contrary to the lyrics in ‘Johnny Angel’), and he’s even caught a glimpse of my more playful side when he happened to step out of his class one day and saw me playing air guitar and singing a Japanese rock song in mine.
Like me, George has never been in a relationship before; I am aware that a lot of girls like him, and think he’s cute, but he’s never actually had a girlfriend. I’m not saying that I’m hoping to be his first one, but at the same time, I don’t really know if this has sparked anything between us, and I’m really determined, on my part, to not get too emotionally involved with him anyway, just in case he’s not into me. I’ve heard the advice of not being the one to ask the guy out first, but I’m just curious: what if the guy’s never been in a relationship before? Should I still hang back, let him notice me, and let him make the first move? Or do I have to do it? I’ve already offered to help him look for colleges that have courses for his desired major when he told me that he couldn’t make it to the college fair last week, but as much as I thought that it was a good move, I want to make sure that I’m not overdoing it, and degrading my own worth in the process—as much as I want him to like me, I am not going to do it by letting him walk all over me.
Part of me wants to just step back now, observe his reactions—if any—and act accordingly. Another part of me wants to continue to talk to him, get to know him, and maybe even ask him out to a play or just hang out together. Right now, I am strongly leaning on the first decision, and am bracing myself for the blow—which is, of course, if he’s not into me.
I would appreciate your input and your answer to my question about asking a guy out; hopefully, they can serve as pointers to my situation, and allow me to see where this may be going.
Thanks a bunch!
Patricia
| Mon, 11-15-2004 - 8:34am |
