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| Mon, 07-31-2006 - 10:26pm |
if a man tells you that due to circumstances he cant have anything serious right now, but wants to still hang out with you, tells you he likes you, do you do this? You have known him about a month and have not had sex. Would it be wasting time to think he'd come around?

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If you want something serious, then yes, IMO it would be wasting time.
Sheri
Well, when a guy says he doesn't want something serious, it means that he's game. He'll take whatever he can get from the girl...hanging out and conversation, but his main objective is getting kisses, hugs, cuddling, sex, etc. He wants to have his needs met at all cost.
If he says he doesn't want anything serious believe him and don't get your hopes up thinking that he'll come around or change his mind. Usually, the girl wants more and expects him to change his mind, but he usually doesn't. When she asks for more he shuts down and disappears or tells the gilr "I told you I didn't want anyhting serious.
If you can handle a deal like this go ahead and knock yourself out.
I totally disagree that a guy who doesn't want something serious is a "player".
What if he just went through a divorce and he wants someone to go to the movies, parties, dinner with? What if, ok, he DOES want some kissing, etc., along with that? He just isn't looking for "the one" right now because he KNOWS it should not be a priority in his life at the moment, because he's got other priorities/obligations/issues to take care of?
The guy who IS a player and is selfish, is the guy who tells you "well, we can see where it goes" KNOWING that he doesn't want anything more. THEN he says "hey, I never SAID I wanted anything serious", knowing full well that he was misleading. THAT guy is a "player".
And to answer the OP, no, I wouldn't date this guy. I don't gamble with my emotions and with my life. Experience has taught me that the odds are not in my favor.
"REAL PLAYER PURE AND SIMPLE>>like games>> go for this dude......eom"
What kind of suggestion is this that you give this woman? It implies that you're possibly a player and like these kind of relationships. That's the worst suggestion you can give to a woman who is confused about what the guy is telling her. You're 55 years of age and should know better. This response can be expected of an 18 year old boy, who doesn't have the capacity or maturity to judge the situation. Your response doesn't fit with your profile. An pology to this woman is in order.
lol...whatever
WEll the person doesnt necessarily have to be a player. They just have a lot going on in life and not enough time for a relationship
Your post is simply scratching at the surface. You need to dig deeper to gain a clear understanding. There is a basic life concept that is in play here. He has responsibilities, obligations, goals and priorities that have a direct influence on how he structures his life. What do you know about his responsibilities, obligations, goals and priorities? After you know more about those things, then you can have the next discussion which is - how does any form of relationship add value to his life structure?
Until you have this information, why would you run away?
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