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Nothing to talk about?
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 12:33pm |
Maybe this might look like a stupid thing to worry about, but I can't stop thinking about this.
Is it normal that when I talk to my boyfriend on the phone we don't have anything to talk about? I've never been a big phone talker, actually I hate talking on the phone, but my boyfriend calls me or wants me to call him several times a day just so we can keep in touch because we can't see each other every day, but I don't know, when we talk on the phone, we usually talk about unimportant things like, "How was your day..., what did you do today... etc.", and that lasts only for about a couple of minutes, and then it's just silence... And we both can feel the awkward moments of silence but it just seems we don't have anything to say! Well, we've only been together for about 2 months, so I think we still don't feel that connection where we can talk about more personal things and feelings, so our conversations are pretty much trivial. On the other hand, when we're actually hanging out in person, we have so much fun and we always have things to talk about. It's just on the phone that we can't seem to have a conversation. The first weeks when we were just starting to know each other it was like he put more effort on making conversation so we wouldn't have those awkward moments of silence, but now if there's nothing interesting to say he just doesn't talk. Maybe this is something stupid to worry about, but I was just wondering if this is normal and happens to other couples because I don't have much experience with relationships and I really like this guy and I'm worried he might think I'm boring or something, or that he might start losing interest in me.
I'd appreciate someone's feedback. Thanks!
Is it normal that when I talk to my boyfriend on the phone we don't have anything to talk about? I've never been a big phone talker, actually I hate talking on the phone, but my boyfriend calls me or wants me to call him several times a day just so we can keep in touch because we can't see each other every day, but I don't know, when we talk on the phone, we usually talk about unimportant things like, "How was your day..., what did you do today... etc.", and that lasts only for about a couple of minutes, and then it's just silence... And we both can feel the awkward moments of silence but it just seems we don't have anything to say! Well, we've only been together for about 2 months, so I think we still don't feel that connection where we can talk about more personal things and feelings, so our conversations are pretty much trivial. On the other hand, when we're actually hanging out in person, we have so much fun and we always have things to talk about. It's just on the phone that we can't seem to have a conversation. The first weeks when we were just starting to know each other it was like he put more effort on making conversation so we wouldn't have those awkward moments of silence, but now if there's nothing interesting to say he just doesn't talk. Maybe this is something stupid to worry about, but I was just wondering if this is normal and happens to other couples because I don't have much experience with relationships and I really like this guy and I'm worried he might think I'm boring or something, or that he might start losing interest in me.
I'd appreciate someone's feedback. Thanks!

I think the previous suggestion that you ask lots of question is actually a pretty good one.
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actually, my boyfriend is not a big phone talker too. but i am :) at first it was difficult for him to spend time with me over the phone, but i just talked on, shared my day, what i did, etc... and eventually, he opened up more and more on the phone. now, he says that it's the only thing he waits for every day (because we don't see each other every day too!)
i think your boyfriend may be trying to get in touch with you every day because he really cares. try to think of him as your journal, where you can share every thing from boring little details to your innermost thoughts. i mean, he's your boyfriend, right? :)
good luck!