Nothing´s clear

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Registered: 11-02-2003
Nothing´s clear
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 9:37pm
I was seeing a guy from my workplace in a casual way during the vacations period. He started the whole thing off, actually, he even insisted, and asked me to go out with him hundreds of times before I finally accepted it. The date was just great, and he even called me the day after. Then we went out one more time, and again, a great date and a call the day after.

After that, I must admit, I started to get a bit obsessed with him so I decided to back off a little so I wouldnt scare him off by acting too clingly, but kept talking to him on the internet almost everyday. There was an ocasion I remember him asking me if I liked the date and I said only yes, no further comments, and he said we should go out again sometime. He asked me to go out with him and the other co-workers at least 2 times a week every week during the month of vacations, but I never felt I could try anything with him with everybody around, it just didnt feel comfortable.

Now we are both back to work, and we are seeing each other everyday. I cant quite tell whats up with him, one day he is the sweetest guy in the world with me, and the other he just treats me as one more of his bunches of mates. From what he said the last time he said anything related to us, I find myself in a position of sitting and waiting for him to make a move or something, but I´m unsure hes ever going to do that, and to be honest, I hate waiting so much and seeing him everyday just makes things harder, I feel I´m about do go there and do something myself.- the only reason I did not do anything yet is because I dont want to put him a pressure situation, as I´m well aware that what we had prolly doesnt mean much.

I dunno much bout his love life, but from what I heard from his friends, hes the kind of guys who likes to go out casually like that and hardly ever go steady with anyone. However, this week I heard from him we wanted more of a commitment. He actually said that aloud in the middle of a conversation with a group of ppl and I was prolly the only female in the group. I dunno if he said that in a way to tell me to get lost bc hes not doing stuff like that anymore, or a way to give me a hint or something, I really dunno. The thing is- I want him and I really think I can get him. I just dunno what to do in the present situation, thing are just so inclear, I can never tell what his intentions are...so that makes me confused. Need a clue, please help...

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 9:37am
I would just...ASK what his intentions are or what is going on.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:22am
I think the best thing in this situation is to just talk to him. Tell him you've been having a great time getting to know him with the dates, and wanted to know what he was expecting. If he's really vague in his answer, or doesn't want to keep dating, then you have the answer: he's not interested.


Either way, what do you have to lose?

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