Now I Think I've Seen it All.. Read This

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Now I Think I've Seen it All.. Read This
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:07am
So here's a scary story for everyone that does online dating��� Now I seriously think I've seen it all on here…. Just a lesson that you never really do know who you're talking to. I've been talking to a guy for probably a little over a month now that I met on myspace. His profile has a picture of a good looking businessman in a suit and tie as his main photo, and a second photo which is obviously also the same man. It said he is 28, blah blah blah. So we've been chatting online and brought it over to IM's on aol. One night I said that we should talk on the phone. He said it was late but he would take a raincheck on that. I didn’t think anything of it. Then again the other day I said "you know you still have that raincheck, why don’t you let me call you" and he said he really should go. I said to him basically that something didn’t seem right to me that he was avoiding actually speaking to me. Silence on his end. I told him to tell me what it was and I promised I wouldn’t get mad (a lie of course if it was really bad)… I asked if I could guess and he said ok. I said "I think you have a girlfriend" he said "no" so I asked "well then what is it?" So he goes on to tell me that his myspace profile is an experiment for a thesis in grad school. He made a profile with an unattractive picture just to see how many responses he'd get as opposed to another profile (the one I answered) with an attractive picture. He did the same with women's pictures he said. He said "then I got caught up in talking with you and I really got to like you as a person"…He apologized and said he hopes I'm not mad at him… I think this is so disturbing. I mean, it's an interesting experiment, yes, but it just shows how you really truly cant trust anyone out there…
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 1:52pm

Allow me to translate what happened. A man who is not so good looking wanted to correspond with good looking women on the Internet. So he posted a false photo with the hopes that it would attract attention. You, seeking a relationship, contact this man. He enthusiastically began to speak with your through IM. When you decided that it was time to take the communication to the next step this man came up with this grad school thesis lie.

You have no guarantee that this man is 28, has a job or anything else that he said in his profile. You have no guarantee that this is a man, or a person who lives anywhere near you.

Can you notify Myspace?