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Obsession with Porn
| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 12:06pm |
understanding that most guys like and do look at porn.....my fiance is not different either. he has porn videos and magazines subcription. he is also in online rooms where he can download pornographic pictures onto his phone and i have seen it. i know that he loves me very much and would not cheat...but sometimes i still wonder if i should worry or if this "interest" is too much. does anyone have this problem too?
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| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 12:18pm |
Hi there. In the past I've dated men who look at pornography but maybe not to the degree you describe your fiance gets involved with it. I'd personally have a huge problem with it and would demand my SO seek counseling or I'd have to leave. But each of us has to decide for ourselves what we can and can't live with. There's a message board here on ivillage that deals directly with pornography. You might want to check that out to get some viewpoints from others in the same type of situation you're dealing with.
| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:00pm |
If he has a subscription, makes online downloads, attends chats on porn and has download to his phone I WOULD consider this more than a hobbie. If your man needs to look at porn in his phone if he has it at home then I'd say that he has an addicition. This may be interfering with his life. I'd consider asking him to see a counserlor if you plan to marry him. On the long run porn addiction always becomes a problem, as in trading the wife for porn.
| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:40pm |
we are not living together currently and only see each other on the weekends. when we are together, he doesn't watch the porn or go online to see the porn. he doesn't really hide it from me (the porn videos and magazines) but like you said....i think it's like an addiction.
| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 5:17pm |
If you don't live together, but you already see the amount of porn that he has in his life, even if he doesn't use it when you're there, I may venture to say that he may use it more often when you're not there. He may even have some hidden stacks somewhwre for his private enjoyment. I imagine that you have a satisfactory sex life now in part because you live apart, but with an additcted man to porn this may change once you live together. Addictions take over. The latter statement would be true if he is addicted, which I don't know but assume based on your posts. He even may say later on that "you knew this because I showed you and you didn't say anything" as a way to justify his priorities .
| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 5:22pm |
thanks for your comments lightandbright. i think ultimately, it would be best for me to talk it over with him and see what happens next.
