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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 11:29am |
Ok all...I'm just posting here to keep myself from being overly obsessive. I am supposed to go to dinner with a guy that I like a lot, who claims that he likes me (check my previous posts, you'll see what I'm talking about). He is a very last minute type of guy, very spontanious, doesn't plan much. Of course, I'm the opposite, love to know what is going on at all times, very detail oriented. Ok, call me a type 'A' personality, that's fine.
SO, we had tenatively discussed meeting at about 6 or 7 for dinner tonight. He said he would definately call me before then to finalize. Now last time we were supposed to go out for dinner, he called me at 5. I had to cancel due to bad weather anyway, but that is an example of how last minute he is.
I REFUSE to call him today to find out details, although I want to know desperately. So I'm here to vent and hope that this will keep my mind off of it while I'm at work, with no work to do!!!
Am I doing the right thing? I will not be the one to make all the phone calls, etc...I figure if he's that interested in me, he can pursue it also.
SO, we had tenatively discussed meeting at about 6 or 7 for dinner tonight. He said he would definately call me before then to finalize. Now last time we were supposed to go out for dinner, he called me at 5. I had to cancel due to bad weather anyway, but that is an example of how last minute he is.
I REFUSE to call him today to find out details, although I want to know desperately. So I'm here to vent and hope that this will keep my mind off of it while I'm at work, with no work to do!!!
Am I doing the right thing? I will not be the one to make all the phone calls, etc...I figure if he's that interested in me, he can pursue it also.

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Just never think that you should alter you - for someone else. Because that's kind of the key to his approach - you'll either accept him as he is, or you won't and that'll be that.
I got a real eye opener in Dec lastt year.....my guy and I compete at the same sports...but, we didn't run this particular event - it was just me. And unexpectedly, notice I say unexpectedly because I just "refuse to expect" anything about of anybody but me anymore...he was taking me to the expo the day before, standing in the line with me to register, went along the marathon course offering encouragement and support, and was there at the finish line with a banana and some water and a big hug. See, I wouldn't have expected that of someone that i considered "selfish"..which is precisely what i used to think someone that was "self-prioritizing appropriately" was a few years ago.
The second that I became responsibel for my own success and destiny - and waht I created was so wonderful I couldn't envision it in my dreams and here it was my reality - I realized precisely what to be "self-prioritizing appropriately' was all about...and that is all he's ever been...solid as a rock, mentally stable and balanced, adn very self-aware and self-responsible and self-assured.
If this helps, he was the one as I changed (although he's never been aware of the radical changes ecause of my self-requirement to learn and not bicker instead of learn) pointed out that he and I didn't have the "market cornered on happiness" that there was plenty to go around if everybody would go out and get it for themselves.
That spoke volumes...most people run around thinking if you've got it- they'v got to take it from you in order to have it...his approach expanded my world because I found out how untrue that was.
Erin
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