oh dear...

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Registered: 06-03-2007
oh dear...
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 12:37am
So there's no other way to say this, but I think I am pregnant. We are only 21. Um. Yah.

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Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: halle2007
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 11:42am

Oh honey, that is a tough one to swallow. How are you doing with this? Talk about adding more stress to your already stressful time with your bf.

Breathe deep. Remember God has a plan for you, you just don't know what it is quite yet.

Take your time and think this through. Be sure you are before you talk to him. How far along do you think you are? OTC tests can give false results. I'd get a blood test from the DR. just to be on the safe side.

*hugs*

PATTY

~Dare to believe in yourself~

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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-16-2007 - 3:23am
Yah, you're right. Maybe I'm not. I've not even told him yet...
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-16-2007 - 12:29pm
Have you taken any at home pregnancy tests?
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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-16-2007 - 7:20pm
I am having all the "signs" and these are things my body has not experienced before either. I want to wait another week to take the home test. I don't want to take it too early and get false results going either way...
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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 6:43am
So I'm going to have a baby. I think I don't believe it yet. I'm sort of in shock. And I'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend. I'm not back in the same city as him yet and I want to tell him in person. He and I are not in a good place right now - we're coming from totally different persepctives on our relationship. Anyway, I want to tell him before I tell my parents. OMG. Our parents are going to freak. We're only 20 and 21. Ok, now I'm freaking out... help...!
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:32am
How did you find out? Was it from a test from a doctor's office or pregnancy kit? You don't have to have a baby if you don't want to. There are some other options available to you. How are things between you and the guy?
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Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:42am

Hang in there. Everything happens for a reason, I think! I would talk to your bf about things going on in your immediate situation first, then talk to him about the baby. You will have a more true perspective on where he stands with YOU, not just because a baby is now involved. Yes, you must do it in person and you should tell the parents together and HAVE A PLAN before you talk to them.

I hope you had a doctors test before you go totally crazy. Make sure it is actually happening. OTC tests can give false results.

Good luck, we're here with ya.

Patty

PATTY

~Dare to believe in yourself~

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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 4:58pm
Thanks Snaf and Patty. I never actually did the home pregnancy test. I was too nervous -I didn't want to see immediate results.. is that strange? I was happy going to the doctor and waiting to know. Our situation is similar to my friend's in that in the Fall, we might be long-distance. He got into a university in my city, but he's not sure it's the best decision for him to go to this particular school. He's expressing reservations about a long distance relationship. I wasnt really thinking beyond the summer.. he's thinking way ahead of me into the Fall.. so we're kind of at odds. He did long-distance with his previous girlfriend and he hated it.. so he's not sure he wants to do it again.
I return to see him next Tuesday... I guess I'll ask him first what he thinks about us before telling him about our baby. I know he loves me... but I also know he really doesn't seem to keen on long-distance.. does that mean then that he doesn't love me enough?? If he *really* loved me, wouldn't he do anything for me?? I dunno, that seems unreasonable, especially since we're really young.
I definitely would never force him into anything. I'm Catholic and there's no way I could not have this baby. I am having it. Besides that, I want this baby.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: halle2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:10pm
okay, you are settled on having the baby. So on to the next topic - the guy. Yes, a guy would do alot for a woman he loves. But...you have to be with a guy who has the right combination of compassion, big heart, and less selfishness than usual and...you have to be dating him at the right time in his life. If you date a guy at the wrong time (inconvenient or too early) in his life he wont give like he would at other times. Which goes to show that when it comes to men timing is everything. A woman is more giving during most of her life when she is truely in love. If a guy has big dreams and the girl he is dating gets pregnant he may not want anything to do with the baby, the girl or will encourage adoption or abortion.
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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: halle2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 3:04am
Well.. that wasn't very positive.. thanks!

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