OK to have relations???

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Registered: 06-20-2006
OK to have relations???
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 7:06pm

My boyfriend and I have been dating for one month, his adult son moved home last week, just out of the military, Now the boyfriend is unsure if it is "ok" to have relations while his son is there because he told the son he cannot have girlfriends over and staying the night or have sex under his roof.
I told him I understand, but that in my opinion, its HIS roof he pays the bills and we are consenting adults in a committed relationship...

Should I push my opinion or just let it be???

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2004
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:01pm

Hi,

I say both. I would give it a little time for all to get adjusted to the new arrangements. It is probably difficult for him to make the adjustment that it is his adult son living with him, not his son the college kid. You have only been together for a month, it is probably committed, but certainly not long term yet. Maybe that is what he wants his son to see?

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 12:51pm

Thank you for your response, we talked last night, I don't disagree with his dilema, I understand, we are just going to take it a day at a time and try to fit in some alone time. If we get adjusted now we are prepared for when his 2 other adult sons come home as well...OH MY!

Thanks again...wish me luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2004
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:18pm
You got it, good luck. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and your boyfriend sounds like he has a decent set of ethics otherwise he wouldn't be concerned about the messages he gives his kids...I think you both should end up ok.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:55pm
What about at your place, his son isn't there and the two of you are alone
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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 3:03pm

I have a 17 year old son...Out timing is going to be interesting so say the least. You know that Murphy's Law thing is working right now.

Thanks for responding