Okay what do I do now?
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Okay what do I do now?
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 11:54pm |
I knew it would happen eventually...The awkward moment is coming. I recently, about a month ago fell into bed with a friend. We went on a wonderful romantic date the following week, and for all the world it looked like we were falling in love...and then he never called. When last we spoke he wanted to take things very slowly and wanted to get his own head together before starting something new. Upon advice I gave up. It has been a month now since we last spoke. I just got back in touch with a good friend who is also a mutual friend of me, my ex's and this guys. Here's the problem, she wants to meet up where he works. When she and I first made plans we made them for Sunday and I have no excuse for changing the date. If I tell her I want to meet somewhere else she is gonna want an explanation and I can't say anything yet. I want to talk to him first and be sure we are still friends. And I know if I call him, he won't call me back, so that's gonna have to be a conversation we have face to face. I don't know what he's thinking or feeling, we never discussed not seeing each other or anything.
Okay what do I do now?
Okay what do I do now?

I don't think you should meet your friend where this guy works. He is going to think you arranged this on purpose. If I were you I would just tell my friend you don't want to meet up there just because you don't want to. There is no need to make up any excuses. If she asks why just say, "I just don't want to meet there, that's it". I say this because if you do meet up with her and he is there it is going to be obvious to her that something went on because absolutely it's going to be awkward. It has been a month.... if this guy wants to get in touch with you he knows where to find you, there is no need to force the meeting; he may resent you for it. By the way... you are right, if you meet up with him it should be face to face and when you two are alone to talk things out. Best to you. Lucy
Well, I did it, and I cannot begin to tell you one, how good it felt, and two how totally relieved I am.
Awkward moment over. Sincere and heartfelt apology accepted by me. We can all get on with our lives now. Grace and dignity and I looked, and I quote, "very very amazing". Everyone is friends now.
Thanks