Old fashion guy or maybe not into me?

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Registered: 03-31-2004
Old fashion guy or maybe not into me?
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Mon, 02-05-2007 - 9:27pm

Hello,

I recently decided to go out with a guy that I met a year ago and at that stage was not really ready for a relationship. Now the more I get to know him the more I like him and we have been going on dates at least once every week for the last few weeks. There is always a lot to talk about from both sides and I get the feeling that he is attracted to me but when it gets to saying good night I still just get a kiss on the cheek. I remember in the whole beginning we talked a little bit about relationships and how quickly things happen these days and that we both believe one should be friends first etc. but I just feel like we should have at least kissed once by now and as a logical person I wonder if I am maybe miss reading the whole thing. My friends suggest that I should just kiss him next time but I don't know - maybe me being stubborn makes me want to be the one who gets the kiss and not give it first... any advice on what to do or how to find out if he is just old fashioned and want to takes things slow or maybe he is just not that into me and want to be more like a friend? Thanks

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 10:11pm

I wouldn't go out and kiss next time you see him him because that could take him by surprise beside been tacky. Meeting once a week is not too often to get to know a person. Next time you meet suggest to see each other more often for lunch, dinner, a stroll down the street or else.

When with him, touch his arm while making a pont and lauh at his jokes. Show him more interest and see his reaction. Even old fashioned guys get the signs. Take into consideration that if you both believe in "friends first" that could be the cause of his behavior not being forward toward a relationship yet.

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Registered: 03-31-2004
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 3:44pm
Thank you for your advise - I took it and finally last night got my kiss :) was worth the wait and it makes you realize that maybe we all should take a little bit more time - you appreciate the outcome much more
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Registered: 06-14-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:37pm

He might be old fashioned and want to get to know you before he wants to show strong emotions toward you.

You could ask him. What could you lose, he either will say that he has strong feelings for you or that he likes you as a companion when he is lonely. good luck