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| Fri, 01-05-2007 - 8:36pm |
I have kind of an unusual situation. I am 25, before my last year of college (last year) I met a guy at my part time work; he is much older than me. I had been dating a lot and was happy just to have someone to hang out with. After about six months I started going to his house for movie watching and hanging out, dinner, watching TV just normal friend stuff. I have also dated a few times since meeting this older guy, we have become close enough I actually tell him about my dates. My older friend has been married two times and he openly tells me about both of them, never a bad word about either ex-wife (he has been divorced 6 years.)Over the holidays his daughter and her husband& family from another state visited him for a few days. I was invited over several times not really sure what to expect (the daughter is older than me) I ended up spending some time with his daughter and she was very nice. She asked me about my relationship with her dad and I was honest which is I don't really know other than we are friends, she told me that for the first time in years her dad seems happy and she thinks it's because of me.
Then just today one of my best friends asked me "what it was like" in reference to being with an older guy (in a sexual situation) I was very surprised, and told her I didn't know. She said because we (my older friend and I) are always together people just kind of think we are a couple, an odd couple but a couple.
Despite our age difference (26 years) I think my older friend is kind of attractive, and I would not mind exploring a little bit more of an intimate relationship, it would be like dating my best friend. I know all the math, when I am "this age he will be that age" and it's not a money thing, he is just a middle class guy. Is this a bad idea? Another thing is I have known him for almost a year, stayed over night at his house before, gotten drunk with him, slept in a tent with him and he has never once made a pass at me or attempted or any effort to be anything other than just friends. Most single guys I have been around usually try to initiate something; I am okay looking and an athlete (you know guys.)
Should I talk to this guy about it? Or just be the one to make a move? What if I am wrong and my intimate interest is offensive to him? Is what I am talking about here just wrong?

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I would again like to thank everyone for responding, I was expecting to bashed I guess, but everyone has been so supportive of my situation thank you..
This was the single best weekend of my life! A week ago if asked I would have said that I am kind of a sexual "powerhouse" I am 25 and I have way to much sexual experience for someone my age. Also I am an athlete and was not unfortunate in the looks department, etc. just things that make a young woman feel pretty confident when it comes to intimate relations. Besides my man is over 50, not old but not 25 either, so if it was to come to sex, I am not expecting "The World" here. In fact I am probably going to "rock his world" if you know what I mean? In fact he is probably going to have a silly smile on his face like "Bob" in the Enzite (or whatever) TV commercial when I get done with him!
If that's not bad enough I pretty much know that my guy hasn't had a girlfriend since he was divorced over six years ago, so he might even be nervous when we actually go for it, right? WRONG! Oh my god! I didn't know one woman could climax so many times in a single weekend! In fact I didn't know my body was capable of providing the kind and the amount of pleasure my brain received this weekend! How can I think about work today? Does everyone see this smile on my face? WOW! Okay I have babbled enough; I just wanted the wonderful people who responded to my post know how this worked out so far and that I must be the happiest woman on the planet! In fact I think this message board should have a new icon for "BEYOND HAPPY!"
Linda
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