Once a womanizer always a womanizer?
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Once a womanizer always a womanizer?
| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 10:59pm |
I've been going out with this guy for about a couple of months and things are starting to get a little serious. From my part, I think I might be falling in love with him. I know he also cares a lot about me and I know I'm special to him, he always tells me how different I am from all the other girls he's been with, specially because most of them have been golddiggers and opportunists who only want him for what he can give them. Me, I'm different, I'm a very self-sufficient and independent girl, I make my own money and don't ask or expect anything from him. I like him for who he is and the good qualities he has as a person. Now here's the problem, I think he's a womanizer. He's not seeing other girls right now, but he has been a womanizer before, he admitted it himself, and he also told me he has cheated in all his past serious relationships and his ex's have accused him of being monogamy-phobic. His excuse is: I only cheated on them after a few years when things turned sour and I felt I didn't love them anymore. Anyways, until this weekend he had been very attentive, focusing all his time and energy on me, even told me he thinks he loves me. He just puts me up in this pedestal and makes me feel like the 8th world wonder, u know... Anyways, this past weekend things turned bad, won't go into details but I saw him kind of flirting and hitting on another girl one night when went out to a bar. When I confronted him he said I was overreacting, that that wasn't flirting, etc. But I know it was. I told him this situation makes me wonder whether he's still a womanizer and if we ever got serious would he eventually cheat on me like he did with all his ex's. He says it's not fair I judge him from his past and that if he ever got to really love me and wanted to be with me for the rest of his life he wouldn't do it.
Anyways, I don't know, I kind of have this bad feeling, kind of a hunch that tells me stay away from him. I fell in love with a womanizer once, was with him for about 3 years, and it was so painful for me. I got so traumatized from that relationship that until now I am kind of "relationship-phobic" (and that was about 6 years ago!).
And that was the only time in my life that I've ever been in love or in a serious relationship. So I feel kind of lost here, clueless, about love and relationships.
I wanna know, will a womanizer always be a womanizer? Have any of you girls ever turned a womanizer around, do you think that if the guy finds the right girl he can change? And guys, what do you think? To those womanizers out there, do you think that you could ever stop being like that if you found the right girl?
I know there are no guarantees in life, but I'm thinking, if the odds tell me once a womanizer always a womanizer, I'm definitely ending this with him, now that I'm still not too into him and it's not painful yet. If there was a chance that a womanizer can change if he finds the right girl, I might give him a chance.
Some feedback here please!
Anyways, I don't know, I kind of have this bad feeling, kind of a hunch that tells me stay away from him. I fell in love with a womanizer once, was with him for about 3 years, and it was so painful for me. I got so traumatized from that relationship that until now I am kind of "relationship-phobic" (and that was about 6 years ago!).
And that was the only time in my life that I've ever been in love or in a serious relationship. So I feel kind of lost here, clueless, about love and relationships.
I wanna know, will a womanizer always be a womanizer? Have any of you girls ever turned a womanizer around, do you think that if the guy finds the right girl he can change? And guys, what do you think? To those womanizers out there, do you think that you could ever stop being like that if you found the right girl?
I know there are no guarantees in life, but I'm thinking, if the odds tell me once a womanizer always a womanizer, I'm definitely ending this with him, now that I'm still not too into him and it's not painful yet. If there was a chance that a womanizer can change if he finds the right girl, I might give him a chance.
Some feedback here please!
