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One Night Stand or More
| Fri, 08-06-2004 - 2:12pm |
I'll give you the short version of the long. 27,divorced for one year, since have been in 1 serious relationship that took me to Denver CO (I live in Manitoba Canada)that ended, met a really nice guy at a bar this weekend (sounds so bad I know), he was in for a baseball tourney (lives 7 hours away) spent 3 whole days together with my friends and his. He was very very affectionate, was always touching me and hugging me even in front of his friends. Spent 2 nights together, really loving sex, he asked me what I was thinking the morning he was leaving (something I would say but haven't had a "one night stand since I was 18 and didn't know what the hell to say, didn't want to look like I was in love with him!)so I said nothing and laughed. He gave me his number and e-mail and told me to call him. I waited a couple days and e-mailed him. I just said I had a grat time and I was going to be out of town for work until Saturday and I would call him on Sunday. He responded back and said he had a good drive home, he was now busy with yard work and that he would talk to me soon. So I'm not sure if I should call him or not. Question is do all baseball guys just do that when they travel or was his actions genuine towards me? He lives 7 hours away, why would I want to start sh#t? Plus he has a kid. I just really like him, we had so much in common (excepet for the kid part)I haven't felt his way about a guy since my first boyfriend when I was 15 and I have had my share of boyfriends and a husband. Should I call and see if we want to see eachother again or should I just chalk it up to a great weekend and move on? But I like him! This sucks...I went into this thinking that I would just use him (haven't had sex in 6 months) and I had a crazy time, just looking out for my best interests in bed, but he was so close to me and he slowed it down and we were making love. I thought I could feel a real loving connection there. Now I'm thinking I would love to get to know him better! Why am I attracted to men who are geograficaly unavailable? I think he is just a really nice guy who wanted to have sex and probably dosen't want this to go any further. What do you think?

As you women know, most men call the next day and paw all over you. Smart men know to wait at least a week before they call and NOT to show much interest. Being too available isn't a good thing when you're first meeting someone.
I don't want to give away too many secrets here but I will seriously tell you NOT to call him. You've already made the mistake of calling him but you can try to salvage things by not showing too much interest in him. Let him come to you. When he calls, be nice but act as if you are busy with something and have to go. Believe me, men LOVE to chase and he will find ways to get you. He will call back with some other offer to see you: tickets to a play, etc.. Go with him but don't act so damn available and interested.
Tom
On another note, don't you think it's rather early to be wondering about expectations and where things are going? You need to relax a bit. The trouble with one night stands, or in your case one weekend stands, is everyone is pretty well on their best behaviour and the relationship is pure fantasy. You both will need time to get to know each other. If he's interested, he will ask to see you again. DO NOT ask to see him. Tom was right on the money when he said, "Being too available isn't a good thing when you're first meeting someone." Concentrate on friendship first and let him come to you.
Good luck!!
amjay45