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| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 5:46pm |
Ok girls, Sat. is the first time I am meeting someone I have met off of the net. Besides meeting at a public place somewhere in between us, what else can you tell me to do--or be aware of....anything......I would appreciate any input.

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Sheri
Make sure that people know where you're going and who you're supposed to be meeting. Give them a description or picture, if something DOES happen (god forbid) it's a good thing for someone to give to the police. Do you have his number, email address, or street address?
Do you have a cell phone? Have a friend call you half an hour after you are supposed to meet him. Work out a signal word with her for "all's good", or "please help the guy's a creep". If you are having a good time, great! If not, you don't owe it to the guy to stay all night. Bring cash for your coffee/ drink/ meal- I say this so that if he tries to say that since he paid for *** that you owe him, you can give him the cash and walk.
If you get a bad vibe, do not accept a ride home, or a walk to your car. Part ways at the MEETING PLACE. Thank him for the meeting and then excuse yourself to the washroom. You don't want a creep following you home or learning your license number.
But all that said, you're going to go and meet a great guy and have a fun time. And you will agree to go out again next week.
If you are really nervous about meeting this guy, I totally suggest you bring a friend. Any guy can respect that, and if he can't, then he had another agenda- right?
Yes, meet in a public place (shopping, restaurant, coffee chop), and during the day, don't meet at night!!
Keep it short, this is only to see if the two of you connect in some way, if so, there will be more opportunities for you two to meet, but if you feel bad about him, just leave.
Meeting a guy from the internet it's not very different from meeting a guy in the street, in the gym, in the bus, you don't know anything about him!!! So, be carefull, there a lot of perverted people out there, but there also a lot of good ones.
So, keep posting about how it went! ;-)
I've always had friends know who I'm meeting and where and when (including knowing their profile name and having seen the photo etc). And it's two or three friends that know where I am going.
Have fun.
Thanks to everyone for the replies!! I am meeting him in about 2 1/2 hours!!! My mom and dad have pics of him, knows where he lives and works, etc. In case I never return! LOL I am extremely nervous but also excited as can be! Thanks again for all the advice! (he is a cop--he has called me from his car when the police radio was on) so I am PROBABLY safe. :-)
I don't know what you can do at this point, other than remind yourself 100 times a day that "yes, he *seems* great, but it's early; time will tell" so I will just wish you luck and hope for your sake that he is the exception and not the rule.
Sheri