Oral sex problem?

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Oral sex problem?
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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 10:30am
I have known this guy for about 7 years and we have fooled around off and on for a long time.Recently it has been more often...This is my problem,when I perform oral sex on him if something happens like we get interupted or something,he saids that when we get back into doing it that I dont do it like I did before,like I am not as into as I was or that I am trying intentionally to not let him have an orgasms....He is into alot of different things so I always ask him ahead of time what he wants.There are times when he wants to get off right away and other times when he wants to get as close to the point of no return and as he puts it just "hang" there as long as he can before he has an orgasm.Well,regardless of how he wants it to be,if we for some reason have to stop,he thinks I am doing it on purpose and not wanting him to get off..I really enjoy doing it to him and trying new things cause he likes it when I do that but I can not stand the fact when he thinks I am playing a game with him.He has apoligized to me for what happend the last time when we were together and said how he felt that it was done intentionally but he wanted to give me the benefit of the doubt.I dont know what to do,I know that some of the upsetment was because of being so aroused and then having a problem getting off.He always has been able to even when we have had to go back to it,but each time we have had a problem he always blames me for it and I need advice on why he would blame me and what I can do about it.
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Registered: 09-07-2006
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 11:51am

Okay so when I was reading your post I could not help but get pissed off! This guy seems totally selfish and self absorbed! He acts like a little spoiled child who when he doesn't get things 'his way' he throws a fit. What ever happened to wanting to please your partner, both of you? I'm all for wanting to please your man but come on he has to want to do the same for you. Does he ever ask you, before hand, what you would like? And the fact that he gets upset with you when you are interrupted it completely immature and selfish. This guy sounds/acts like he is 16 years old! Things happen and sometimes sex isn't as 'smooth' as we would like but you cannot blame your partner for interruptions out of your control. It is hard for me to believe that this guy would even be upset with you, you have done nothing wrong! You are not his sex slave! And another question, why is he getting upset with you when you are not even in a committed romantic relationship with him?

Seems to me the only thing this guy cares about is himself and making sure he's taken care of. The problem is not you my dear but him, if I were you I would cut this jerk off and find yourself a real man who will love, respect you and want to please you as well! Seems to me this guy doesn't deserve anything from you.