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| Mon, 10-17-2005 - 12:36am |
Heres the story:
I have been dating my bf for a year now, i have moved from one town to another, changed schools, and jobs to be closer to him. We have talked about our future hopes, dreams ect...even marriage. We have shared everything together...well i thought we did. Recently i was on his computer looking for a web site i had recently visited,and found out that he watched porn, not a little but alot.I guess he didnt erase it the night before. The thing that shocked me even more was that there was a site that had our citys name on it and local girls. Now i love my bf alot and sometimes i dont know what i would do without him but since i saw what he watches when im not there i seem to feel disgusted with him and that he's cheating on me the "cyber" way.
Now we have even talked about him looking at porn before and he told me he got rid of eveything when he meet me. So when i found out i was very supprised and couldnt help feeling that he lied...
Now i guess my question is am i overreacting to his actions? Should i confront him about what i saw? Or should i just accept the fact that guys watch porn. and try to forget about it in the sake of our relationship. If i should confront him, how?
I have been dating my bf for a year now, i have moved from one town to another, changed schools, and jobs to be closer to him. We have talked about our future hopes, dreams ect...even marriage. We have shared everything together...well i thought we did. Recently i was on his computer looking for a web site i had recently visited,and found out that he watched porn, not a little but alot.I guess he didnt erase it the night before. The thing that shocked me even more was that there was a site that had our citys name on it and local girls. Now i love my bf alot and sometimes i dont know what i would do without him but since i saw what he watches when im not there i seem to feel disgusted with him and that he's cheating on me the "cyber" way.
Now we have even talked about him looking at porn before and he told me he got rid of eveything when he meet me. So when i found out i was very supprised and couldnt help feeling that he lied...
Now i guess my question is am i overreacting to his actions? Should i confront him about what i saw? Or should i just accept the fact that guys watch porn. and try to forget about it in the sake of our relationship. If i should confront him, how?

If a man enjoys porn, more than likely he isn't going to stop just because his girlfriend is uncomfortable with it. He will just hide it better.
If you don't mind porn then let him do what he wants. If you do then you need to make a choice, either put up with it or move on.
YES, YOU ARE OVERREACTING!!
Did this guy cheat on you? umm, no...Why do women find every little thing to get upset about? You're going to drive him away with your pettiness!! Men watch porn, period, any man that says he doesn't is a LIAR. I don't mean to sound harsh here but I can understand why some men act the way they do with women and just want to be with the boys.