out of control

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Registered: 02-17-2004
out of control
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 5:39pm
Ok all,

So I've been dating a guy for almost 3 months. He has told me he loves me, and I have said it back to him. But yesterday on the way back to my place, a strange feeling came over me. All of a sudden I realized just how much I care for him. In the years before, I have always tried to protect myself and control my feelings for fear of being hurt in the end. So, yesterday I kinda started freaking out because I realized that I can't control my feelings. I love him and care soo much about him. I look forward to hanging out with him no matter what it involves. So my question is: Is this normal? Should I try to regain control? Is there anyway to still try and protect myself from getting hurt? Or should I just go with the flow, and if i get hurt, it will be worth it now?

thanks
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Registered: 04-07-2004
In reply to: dusty6_99
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 9:14pm
What I would do is use my head not to control my feelings but to control my reactions to them - now is the time to keep busy with your life- interests, friends, working out, etc - and to understand that often at the three month mark what you feel is true love is based on incomplete information or is infatuation. I would not see him more often or talk to him more often until you've been dating at least 5-6 months and have had conversations about a future together. I think you can totally enjoy the lovely feelings while controlling your reactions to those feelings.