Outrageous Article

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2004
Outrageous Article
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 3:25am
I just got through reading "How to find a boyfriend:15 Tips from Professionals".I was outraged to find that the first thing one of these so called experts was telling us is if we look like Roseanne Arnold we should give up all hope of ever finding ourselves a Tom Cruise. Be realistic is advised. As if to imply that any self respecting man with a fair ammount of charm and looks wouldn't dare talk to an "average" looking woman. I'm sorry if I am being overly dramatic, but this really bothers me. I am so tired of the media, and now iVillage, telling us that only the Tyra Banks' and Cindy Crawfords of the world have any chance at true happiness. I have always thought of iVillage to be a place where women could come to celebrate themselves as they are, but now I know I was wrong. It is this kind of crap that only perpetuates the unattainable images we see in magazines and on television, and it's just not right. Loving yourself above all other things is the first key to finding true happiness, wether you look like Roseanne Arnold, the elephant man, or Cameron Diaz. We all deserve a prince charming, no matter what he or we may look like.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 5:57pm
I'm still waiting at home waiting for Cindy Crawford to call. I hope she didn't read that article!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:13pm
I think the point the article made about that is dead on:

what it's stating is that WOMEN shouldn't be shallow.

And unfortunately, a lot of women are - they just make excuses for it so they don't think they are. It's not "he's not good looking", it's "Oh I don't have chemistry with him" or "He's not my type". Apparently, only Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt look-alikes are their type.

I think women just prefer to deceive themselves - guys will at least admit that they're shallow.

:P

On one of those dating TV shows a while back, this woman was out on this date with a guy - who had admittedly cheated on EVERY girlfriend he's ever had. However, he was handsome - and it was almost sickening to watch this woman go "Ohhhh, he'll NEVER cheat on me!" Somehow I suspect if he looked like Danny DeVito she would have kicked him to the curb faster than he could say "Hello".

Oh, and if you're wondering - she ended up sleeping with him on the first date.

It's sad that so many women confuse good looks with good nature - but it's even worse when they don't realize it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:28pm
Hey, I'm a guy and I agree with you. And I will tell you from experience that men like different things and different types. Some men like Rosanne Bar! Personally, I like skinny women with flat chests who are very intelligent with short hair. I do NOT think Pamela Anderson is attractive at all and wouldn't even want to talk to her. Seriously. Not all guys like the same type of woman.

But you know what, even though I described the woman that I like above, I ended up falling for a woman of very average looks, short, with medium sized figure. I just love her laughter and sense of humor and personality. I've shown her picture to others and some say, "She's just average looks.." I don't care, she's wonderful.

Ladies, just be yourself and be a fun person to be around and the men will come, if they don't, you probably wouldn't have wanted them in the first place.

Tom

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