Over reaction???

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Over reaction???
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 2:45am
So I got a boyfriend, and digging him a whole lot, started living 2gether bout 10 months now, he was a bouncer, and I had to go through a few girls telling me he used to see him or date him I would discuss it with him let him know it caught me off guard or maybe even upset me but the final word is he is with me now and I am comfortable with that, tonite, he caught me by surprise, we were in the car and he comes out with "you know we are going to get married right!" I told him nothing would make me happier but get back to me when you have not had so much to drink. St Patrick's day sure is something! so we go back to a bar we always hang out at, he bring this girl over to me and tells her how I had gone through many girls telling me how they used to see him, and this girl was not one of those girls, yet I spill something on me and as I wipe it off my pants I find my boyfriend running his fingers through her hair, not as if she had something in her hair but to the side as if he was caressing her cheek and decided to just settle for running his finger through the length of her hair. I was infuriated! we were about to leave and he was obviously tipsy and I implored him to let me drive where we got into our first shouting match in public, he is yelling at me to get into the car, I am threatening to walk home, needless to say it was the longest drive home I ever experienced we got home and I threw my keys at the wall and shouted "what are you doing running your fingers through that girls hair" now all of a sudden this girl he wanted me to meet is some fat girl he gets upset and kicks the closet door (which I have a sizeable security deposit) and does some damage then mumbles oh I am the bad guy, you dont trust me, yadda yadda yadda, and through drunkeness and exhaustion he plants himself on the couch and passes out. I am to pi ed to sleep and now I am wondering am I over reacting? Heck he practically proposed to me and now I am acting like some insane school girl. It is not as if he ripped her clothes off, but it was just to intimate for my liking, can anyone shed some light so I can see this differently??
yurhiness
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 9:44am
He was drunk, right? He proposed and you say "yes", but the decides to caress another girl's hair in front of you. You feel offended and such. However, it appears that you've had the same issue with other girls about the same. You've discussed and you were fine at the time. Seems to be a pattern in his life...you know, many girls dating him and he allowing things to happen in front of you, you discuss it and you're happy again. What happened last night wasn't new so why feel you overreacted? To your BF this was one more of his girls, that you in time will accept and will be happy one more time. It's your call to decide between this man who will alwyas have something to "discuss" OR a what you want out of a relationship.