paranoia

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Registered: 10-25-2004
paranoia
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:01am
Hi all,

I have been dating a guy for almost a year now and am very happy. The relationship started by being very rocky because we both had our fears of things not working out because of past disappointments. We have fights occasionally but it is very clear that we love each other and work hard to make the relationship work. As a result things have only gotten better over time. I still sometimes get paranoid about things not working out and want to stop having those freak out sessions. Any advice?

willis

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2004
In reply to: d_willis2004
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 1:54pm
Try taking a deep breath before you react, and giving yourself some time to turn the situation over in your head. Often, the worst situations in your head end up being harmless. But becareful of forgetting to trust your gut instinct - it is important to be able to trust yourself on your intuition, and often it is correct. If you feel a gut instinct telling you that you need to examine a situation more closely, remember to go into it wanting to find out that there was nothing wrong to begin with. When you go into a situation skeptically you often will find "evidence" everywhere. Good luck.